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writes:Hi I've been seeing a girl now for two weeks. She's great and funny and attractive and smart (something you don't always get). But there's just one thing. She told me she did one or two porn photo shoots which she says she regrets and needed money for university. I know I should get over it but I'm not sure especially as I've had low confidence with girls to begin with (she's my 2nd gf) and I'm just worried that some guys in my campus might be oggling at her in a mag. Should I just accept it or should I leave her?
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 December 2006): You're worried about other guys ogling at her in some magazine? So in short, you're worried on how other people think of you and her together then? [ponders] Mhmm... Well, if you're bothered by it so much, you can ditch the girl right? Otherwise, if it was me in your shoes, I'll be smiling all the time. I wouldn't give a rats ass to stuff like this, unless she is still doing it.
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reader, Nikita +, writes (14 December 2006):
 dear anon, at least she told you and didnt hide it from you. She obviously values you and cares for you enough to be upfront about it. She regrets it and obviously would like to forget it. i wouldnt worry about what other guys think. They'll just be jealous that you're with such a goodlooking girl. Try and get past it and concentrate on the relationship. dont let her past get in the way of what could be agood thing. We all do things that we regret and you shouldnt hold this against her. good luckx
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reader, DrPsych +, writes (14 December 2006):
 A few years ago I dated a guy for a while who claimed to be a 'model'. To cut a long story short, it turned out his modelling was the adult calender variety but he never told me at the start or our time together. He too was smart, funny and good-looking but it killed our relationship dead and I left him when I discovered the truth. This is not necessarily because of what he did (although if I am honest it was a factor - I started looking at him as a player), but really because he wasn't honest about it at the start (so I wondered what else he lied about?). To her credit, your girlfriend has confessed early in the relationship but it is up to you to decide how you take the news - it is a personal judgement based on your own values and attitude towards it. The opinion of others is really secondary to what you think about it - after all she is your girlfriend.
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reader, David Lewis +, writes (14 December 2006):
 That depends on your outlook. I give her a LOT of credit for being so honest about it so early in the relationship. She regrets it, obviously a good sign.
I think that if you CAN'T accept it, then you should leave her. Otherwise the tension and animosity will build up very quickly.
If other guys are ogling her in a mag, then you will be considered a very lucky guy around campus. This girl did it for purely financial reasons, so does not make her a slut.
Don't worry what other people think, do what makes you happy.
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