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writes:so i was seeing this girl for a few months, felt we really connected. we moved in way to soon she needed to stay for a bit while she looked for a new place, and eventually we both agreed we enjoyed living together. that was after 2 months, soon i know. After three months we told eachother we loved eachother soon again i know, but we both felt it.she has recently broken up with me giving me all sorts of excuses why from needing space, to be alone, to not ready for this type of relationship. the last time we seriously talked she told me she was empty inside and had nothing to offer me, because she needed to find love for herself before she could show any to me. somehow i could kinda relate. this conversation took place at my house where she still kinda lives although she doesnt sleep there anymore, just comes home before work gets ready and leaves. i confronted her about her going on a trip with her ex this month, and i threw a tempertantrum packed up all her stuff and told her i would drop it off wherever she wanted me to, i got no reply. i have been working this past weekend so i didnt go home (military) but i sent her a text saying she had the weekend to get her stuff out, thats what she wanted anyways was not to live there anymore.she sent me a text today that she hadnt gotten her stuff out yet, that she was sorry she would get it tommorrow but ive heard this before.the questions i have is 1) why if she wants to leave is she not gone yet, i have given her plenty of opportunitys and why if she doesnt want to leave she does not sleep there wether im there or not.2) whats up with the ex, when i confronted her about the trip she said it was a free trip and that nothing was going to happen, and that she didnt want anything to happen. But i have know that she has been spending a decent amount of time with this guy latley. but if she said she wanted time to find herself, love herself and nobody else, why the trip with the ex.i dont want to loose her, i truley love her, we are great together snd she told me the other day that if she had met me 5 years down the road she would have married me. which just confuses me even more.. if you find that why would you want to give that up. everything was really good and one day it seems she woke up and forgot who she was, or how right we are for eachother..........
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reader, Jovial  +, writes (12 May 2008):
 Hi
Your guess is as good as mine. I dont understand why she is doing this but I have an idea that she is just keeping her options open, maybe now she just want to run-off with an ex "i mean a free trip and nothing will happen that has never hurt anyone" do you believe that crap?
She dumped you and yet she still stays in your house open your eyes brother, she knows no other woman in her right mind would want to be with you without asking questions why? because her staff is there and after work your house is her first destination think about it and judge for yourself. tell me what do you really want in life? is this the kinda woman you need in your life? someone who has no regards to your feelings and needs whatsoever?
get rid of this woman its your house its not like you share a child or mortage together.
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