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writes:My Girl has an easy life (after work) but she say's she unhappy, depressed. am i stupid to think she shouldn't be like this?i live at home with my mom and family and my girlfriend my mom does all her washing , tea's. everytime she wants a drink of tea i make it. when she wants a bath i make it. whenever she wants to watch a dvd, i watch it. to me my girl works hard at work. i don't work so i kind of run around after her doing everything i can. my girlfriend doesn't thank me enought i don't think. all i ask in return is sex or being played with. i love being played with if she doesn't wanna have sex. but half the time it's like " i'm not in the mood " and i think oh my god i do everything 4 her and all she does 4 me is. make me hot chocolate's (when i want 1) clean's up the room (which is always her own fault) she throw's clothes on the floor and wonders y the room is a mess. but that's not her fault it's mine because she think's it's my fault. i tickle her feet even thought i love my feet being ticked she doesn't do it 2 me. she hate's feet. she give's me massage's when ever i want one. i asked 4 3 in 2 week's i got 1 last night. do u think she think's i'm boring. she always saying "we spend 2 much time together " but she work's 7-4 i get up every morning with her make her a brew phone the cab. and i don't moan about this 1 bit (when i stay in bed only done it once) she moan's i wanted to do it last week. and she said " your staying in bed " in a very nasty voice so i got up. why do u think she could be depressed or unhappy?any help would be great thanksp.s we fight so much. is there way i could stop fighting with her? she saying if we fight once this week she going to live with her brother 4 a week 2 see if that help's. but that mean's where going backward's. Been togehtet 16 month this month.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 December 2006): I think camille and myself would get on famous. Shes dead right. Why dont u work? is it coz u cant be bothered or is it that u think u already have a job looking after ur girlfriend and sex is ur wage. Men like u need a good kick up the ass! maybe ur girl is stressed and tired from the job then to come home to u whinging adds more pressure. U say she may move in with her bro for a while isnt that telling you something that she finds living in your family home hard. If you seriously want this relationship to work you have to get a job or at least be looking for one. move out of your mothers house too be honest who wants to have sex when the mother in laws in d next room. Treat this poor girl with a bit of respect.
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reader, camille +, writes (11 December 2006):
 I'm sorry but it sounds like you do for her to get something for yourself and that's not what giving is about! Your girlfriend is not to blame if everything outside work is done for her, that's you and your Mum's doing but it doesn't mean your girlfriend has to be happy. Maybe you two do TOO much and that's doing her head in? Maybe she's too polite to say back off, or that you could be suffocating her. How old are you? Why don't you work? Why don't you rent your own place? You didn't give too much info cos you were too busy moaning about not getting any. Your girlfriend's job may be very demanding and she can't switch her pressures off. Just because the extent of your hard labour is tickling feet, making cups of tes, running baths, watching DVD's and expecting sexual favours, you are STILL being selfish! Perhaps if you got off your ass to get a job and have a life outside of the house/relationship, she wouldn't think you're boring...if indeed she does....
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