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writes: Hello everyone, I am a lesbian who has been with my girl for five years. She broke up with me in May because she said I was too sprung. I didn't consider myself to be sprung, I was in love. I really love this girl and I believe she is my soulmate. I am having a hard time getting over her. She has recently starting dating another female, but I am having a hard time moving on. Can someone please tell me what I should do. Should I persue my girl or just leave it alone. If I leave it alone, how do I move on?
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI really do appreciate all the feedback I got from everyone.It is now March and I am still missing my ex. She calls every now and then and ask if she can come back home, but I don't take her seriously because she will not call again for a week or so. She is not talking to me at the present time because she thinks I am dating someone. I don't understand how she can date other people but get angry when I want to do the same thing. By the way I am not dating anyone and I haven't dating anyone since she left. I am sooooo lonely right now.
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reader, lemony99 +, writes (15 December 2005):
hey. i am currently watching from the outside of a situation that sounds very similar to yours. I do not want to sound harsh but i think you just have to move on. Five years is a long time and it wont be easy, but if she is seeing someone else I don't think it is likely she is going to change her mind about you. All you will do by clinging on to her is hurt yourself more in the long run... I really hope you can be happy again soon.
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reader, mommyofthree +, writes (15 December 2005):
 Definitelt leave her alone, for now. You will only push her further away if you are all over her knowing she has someone else. I agree with the first answer in that you should take some time and meet other people. Give yourself the time you need to heal. You may find that even though she is seeing someone else, she may come crawling back as soon as she thinks you are over her. I would not try to contact her in any way, and see if she starts calling you "just to see how you are doing". Good luck, take care.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2005): Now, even though she has other girl doesn't mean that she doesn't have feelings for you. Now, i am not a lesbian, but i have been in this place with a guy. I know it may be hard to see your girl with someone else because you are missing seeing yourself with her. Take some time get to know other people. See if you are able to move on, but if you are not able to move. It may be hard and you may get heart broke, but if you really want her back. One way, is to try and make her jealous and see if she gets mad. If she doesn't than she still has feelings for you. Other way, is if you can't seem to move on than tell her how you feel. It will be hard since she is with someone else. But to know the truth is better than not knowing. Finally, just take time out and go ways that you don't see them and throw out all the stuff you had together. Anything that could remind you of her. If you can't hide it away and lock it up. So you have nothing to look at that will bring back pictures in your head. Set up a lot of stuff to do that will keep your activity and take your mind off of her. Do whatever you can not to cry over her and think about her. It will just make it worst.
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