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*inke72
writes:I'm 34 yo male and my male partner's ex wife is causing a lot of strain in our relationship. She had an affair and left him, and took the 3 boys away, which really hurt him. He never cheated on her, buried his sexuality for a long time, and was a good father. Now he is the happiest person with me, and the kids (7,10 and 12)know everything.However it is the mother who is constantly putting him down, bullying (as was the case during the marriage, during which he was assaulted by her many times), lying and manipulating every situation to suit her. I'm confident she has a borderline and histrionic personality disorder.A month ago, after I told her that the only reason she's in the picture is the kids and that she should stop bullying him, she came over to our house and assaulted me. The police arrived and she went berserk like a maniac, she was arrested and a restraining order put on her.Just wondering if anyone has similar experiences?
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reader, minke72 +, writes (1 February 2007):
minke72 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for your replies, it's good to know there's someone out there going through the same. gay men/partners with ex wifes & kids are a minority within a minority, mostly hidden but there's a lot of us out there!
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reader, rduITduo  +, writes (1 February 2007):
Not quite the same, but VERY VERY VERY similar. I kinda read this because for a second I would have sworn we had the same boyfriend. (Or a near carbon copy!)
My BF went through a lot of the same, the abuse the repression, the military, and 4 kids later she ups and admits to having cheated on his ass. Anyway, the relationship spiraled, we hooked up, and it all seemed to be over. We remained friends and talked a lot, but between the divorce, my relationships, his relationships, my need to be alone, and his need to be alone, there just wasn't a good moment to get together, anywhere in a roughly 5 year span.
Until Easter of 2006. We just so happened to be single, happy, looking, and utterly bored off our asses.
So we're "happily" together now, minus his depression, the bitch ex that won't let him even talk to the kids, let alone actually have the weekend visitation that his custody agreement states.
He's exhausted, mentally and emotionally, and dragging her to court for her to lie and say the kids didn't want to go has just about made him bankrupt.
And to top it all off she's getting a little over half of his paycheck!
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reader, cd206  +, writes (17 January 2007):
 She's obviously having problems at the thought of you and her husband being together and she needs some professional help. I think it has to be your partner who's the one to suggest it though. If he's not sure about it encourage him to talk to someone about it, maybe his wife's doctor or a gay helpline to see if anyone can give any advice about this. It sounds like she needs some serious help here but let her ex deal with this as ultimately she's his responsibility and he owes it to his kids to make sure their mother isn't a danger to him or to herself.
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