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writes:Why is she ignoring me?I posted a similar question up a little while ago about my girlfriend not replying to texts. Now it seems to have gotten worse!I texted her on Tuesday and got replies. I then texted on Wednesday but got no reply. I then texted last night (Sunday) but, again, no reply.She has also made her myspace profile private and changed the default to pictures of her friends. I know that she was last online on Saturday but I never saw her (I knew from her myspace).I really am in love with her and she knows that. I really want (need even?) to know why she's doing this.The main question is "why is she ignoring me?".Anyone got any ideas?
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reader, Peterk5699 +, writes (22 January 2007):
Peterk5699 is verified as being by the original poster of the question That kinda came out wrong. I'm not exactly shy to say but just I dunno.
If it came to meeting then I wouldn't be shy at all, I'm fine with meeting people.
Bah, I dunno. I could be worried about what she would say but not realising it. I'm gonna try and call her tomorrow or maybe save it for the w/end so I know she isn't busy.
Thanx everyone for your help!
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 January 2007): You're shy with your girlfriend? Well, that has to change first of all for this one or any other future prospects. High school is one thing - I've been there and it sucked monkey shnitzels, but you definitely have to work on your self-esteem somehow, before venturing into intimate relationships.
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reader, Peterk5699 +, writes (22 January 2007):
Peterk5699 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI never try and bother her or anything. I send a hi text a few times a week and then she texts back.
And I don't ask her questions that are overly private, i.e: What're you up to tonight etc are the only Q's I ask.
I'm a bit too shy to call her. I had a bad high school time which has left me rather shy and as you said, it could be bothering her. Maybe sometime I will. Tomorrow maybe.
Thanx for all your help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 January 2007): No sorry, I don't believe in that saying that all good things come to an end. However, aside from your absolute lust over her, how do you know she is good for you? I mean, someone who doesn't initiate open communication says quite a bit in terms of sincerity. Especially when is already in an intimate relationship.
There can be a few reasons why she is ignoring you. Two:
1) you are being too easy, possibly overwhelming her mental and private space, becoming or has become a nuisance
2) she feels you are not the ideal boy, lack of affinity in mental, and/or physical, and/or spiritual connection
If I were in your shoes, I would have tried to call her Monday two or three times, then Tuesday two or three times, then text her if she won't answer. Then an email on Wednesday, wait a day or two, and if no answer, I would send off a voice message telling her that this is ridiculous, and if she is avoiding me because she feels bad about breaking up with me, then this isn't the way to do it. Afterwards, I wouldn't bother with her anymore. Of course, I would always feel like there is no closure and I hate that feeling, but hey, what can I do that doesn't add to my resentment towards her even more? 8]
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reader, Peterk5699 +, writes (22 January 2007):
Peterk5699 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanx for the quick response.
This is my first "mature"(?) relationship. I've had other relationships but really they meant nothing.
It hurt to read that but I've decided to send one last text tonight and after that, maybe no more.
I guess it's tru that "All good things come to an end".
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reader, Dagwood  +, writes (22 January 2007):
 Hi. Sorry mate but it seems her interest level has dropped below 50% and she no longer wants to be with you. This is tough and we all go through this in relationships. They are always a risk. I suggest you stop all contact with her! You can't need her, you were fine before you met her and will be fine in the future. If you chase her it will just make you feel worse and she'll lose all respect for you and you’ll lose a little self respect in the process. Go out with your mates, date a few other girls. You're young; you'll find many a good lass out there that will love you back. Be strong & take care.
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