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36-40,
*storeyfire
writes:Since I graduated, some of my close friends have moved away. The girls I work with are still around and I lived with 2 of them for 9 months, yet neither of them talk to me, text me, or invite me to anything. They are still in college so I guess they don't care. :( They were always much closer to one another than to me and one of them was never that close, but I used to be very close to the other and we used to get on well. But now they never ask me to anything and I feel so left out. My former boss asked me to a leaving night out party for her a while back but she didn't know what weekend it would be. I find out from Facebook that it's this weekend and none of the girls bothered to tell me. They also are going to America this summer on a working holiday for the whole summer. They know I'm going as well and that I don't have anyone to go with (but I'll probably have a prearranged job so I should be fine) and didn't ask me if I want to come. I'm sitting at home tonight not feeling good when I'd rather be out. When I lived with the girls they were the main people I went out with, now I hardly have anyone to go out. Knock-on effect of this is that I'm single and I'm not meeting guys at all. They also all went to the Commerce ball together last week and I felt like I was the only one not going there, I hate feeling so left out! I was supposed to go out with another girl, but she got drunk and let me down..This is awful..I guess I shouldn't bother with them anymore what bitches....How do I make some new friends..I'm so lonely and depressed.
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reader, eddie85  +, writes (31 January 2011):
 Well, you won't make new friends sitting at home. At your age, it is challenging to find new friends and the way to make friends is to get out there.Here are my tips:1) Make friends at work. You are around each other a lot and I am sure there is someone that you've bound with. Ask them to hang out.2) Join a gym or get in with a running group. There are a lot of groups that are for physical activities but are actually social events. Check them out.3) Make it a point to say 1 thing nice to someone each day. It'll get you out of "yourself" and you'll instantly be regarded as friendly to the person you do nice things to.4) If you have a hobby, find other people that have hobbies that are similar and join their social circles.The bottom line though is you'll have to get out of yourself and take some chances. Good luck!
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reader, sexybabe13 +, writes (30 January 2011):
 That's somewhat how I feel... you're not the only one. Just try to get more active in sports or something.
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