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writes: I am still a virgin, but my friends bought me a vibrator for my birthday.I want to use it but when I tried for the first time it really hurt. I think my vagina is too tight. Is there any way I a "stretch" my vagina muscles?
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 December 2007): dont worry girl, ive struggled with this...my vagina is pretty tight i cant fit more than 2 fingers in even when im aroused! i think we just need to wait and not try and force things too much! xx
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reader, schlottjl  +, writes (7 June 2005):
 How fun. I though you meant prudish not physically small. My bad. The easy answer is if is wiggles use it on the outside, if not it goes in. (Vibrators vibrate and dildos dip)But first, as woment we are spiritual and emotional by nature (unlesss it has been sexualized out of us or we bought the lie that e-quality means ridding yourself of feminine power and trying to be men. The world would be so much better if the men lost their minds instead and tried to be chiAsk yourself why you want to try. Many women don't hit a sexual prime and cannot enjoy the act until much later than you would think. I was able to enjoy sex totally, had orgasims right and left. Then one day in my mid 30s, something happened, a spitital awakening or earthshattering event I think. I was always sexual but bam out of nowhere- I am super closet slut. It is good that in nature men peak, then kids are born, then women peak and when timed right the sex hits newer and higher peaks I personally never imagined possible. I now understand pubesent boys!!!! If your 34th birthday is still in the future, really ask why you want to. It drives me nuts the sexualization of women these days. It cheapenes them and lies to them leading them to start too young, cheapen themselves, deny their power and nature, then try to act like men and postpone sanity until it is too late, and they have damaged themselves. But you are special... You have hope. I hope you know how special and rare that is. You still have hope. If you don't see the point in the vibrator GREAT! Who ever said that physical rubbing and then release is the end all of life. Anyway, if You are sure that you really want to try again at something you have had no fun trying before then proceed.First, you should check up on a few possible but unlikely possibilities before plunging in, particularly when batteries and appliances are involved. When I hear too tight to enjoy penetration w/or w/o plastics, The answer you seek might depend on numerous factors. If you are sexually active even if solo, you should have a pelvic exam. Have you been to the Gyno? Rule out odd anatomy or infection. Have you ever been to a therapist for any reason? Not just for sexual issues, but for abuse, alcohoism in the family, molestation? Are you close to your male relatives? Not Sexually but, are your parents together, any brothers? Girls are force fed sexuality from birth and freudian fixes happen in all humans at least to a small degree. These are serious or semi serious matters that could affect your physical comfort or mental focus and attitudes on sex in general. Then a tight tither region is only then a small symptom and the real problem is elsewhere. Did you want a vibrator in the first place or do you think that maybe everyone else seems to swear by them so you should at least try to see what the fuss is all about. If you feel like people are singling you out as odd or different becuase you are not obsessed with a physical act, do not feel prudish. Just because others think you whould like something or should try something means nothing. Only about 1/2 of women really would even think of selflove if it were not made to seem mature and vital to life. If you are in that boat, You are sitting pretty with billions of other women. If your friends seem fixiated it could be because girls have been misled to think sex or being sexy to a certain group of usually very immatue males is the pinnical of hapiness. Let me assure you it is the opposite. Wait for the real men even though that age is gettign later and later. Women usually find more fulfillment in intimate relating not meaningless physical release that is rarely attainable via sex. However, that said...If you are one of the few anatmically set gals who stumbled on your clit during a diaper change that took place at the dawn of time, then try the following: First, name your weapon. Is is a dildo or vibrator? Either one should remain rim side until you really can't stand not taking the dip. If you have a huge tool, perhaps downgrading. I swear men make the supersizes. I think a sensitive, newby might like a life like or smaller rubber soft, multi speed vibrator. Can't go wrong. If you are afraid or nervous or even feeling a bit frisky but unsure, slow down and romance yourself. Don't even try until you have some time. Relax, take a bath, read the chick pron (romance commercial crap, or better, romantic erotic stories. These are hot. I defy any womant to not at least want to try for the O gold after a few minitues of graphic suggestions. Anyways, I digress...If you are not very wet do not dive! Experiment with different pressures, try warming lubes (outside), adjust speed, adjust grip and pressure. start lightest and next to the clit until it is not too sensitive to be direct. Only after all of the above and you fancy yourself the deep slammer should you entertain the idea of penetration. Then Go slow stop, wait. Think of pre exercise static stretches. Consider never going more than in inch in since most feeling is there at the top anyway and then you keep your hymen for the main event some day. That would be seriously cool. If you are ashamed of all of this go heavy on the erotic imagery, if you are still baffeled then consider talking to a doc, particularly if you are on any meds. Most of all have fun and consider it a region you don't have to pay a massure to manipulate.If you are still tense, or were raised religiously or shamed somehow. Go real slow. Remind your self that if you pull a leg muscle you are not forbidden from manipulating the region to release the acid build ups, You are currenly a virgin and therefore definately placing in the top tier of his pack, and really, Why would God care anyway. Or if your seceretly afraid your slutty, well Look at the posts, your in good company!Mind over matter, pay attention to where your mind wanders, do you notice a curve on your body, cover up with a sexy teddy, are you nervous about your fanticies, go on line and note your tame by any standard. Are you afraid you will be unsatisfying someday, don't worry your on that already by knowin what you want.
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reader, Crazy_About_B +, writes (7 June 2005):
What I don't get is why would you want to use a vibrator instead of the real thing. It is just like having sex except you don't have a male with you. If you have a boyfriend then ask him if he would like to have sex but first make sure he is not infected with anything. If you don't have a partner use your fingers first. Start with one then two and keep going until you feel you are loose enough then try to use the vibrator. Like I always say "There is no good way of having sex unless you do the real thing."
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 May 2005): Hi, what i suggest you do is...try and insert yourself with your finger first, because your finger may be smaller than the vibrator, see how that goes and if you can get it in there, gently slip in and out and then put the vibrator in when you are moist and wet, if you still cannot seem to fit the vibrator into your vagina then try using your finger for a couple of days and get used to it, if you do not have enough privacy then, make sure that if you are embarrassed you relax and do not feel tense, try touching yourself to turn you on, and if you do not feel turned on by this, just keep using your finger and im sure you will get used to it, if you are in a realationship, why not get your partner to help you, or at least talk to him/her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 May 2005): obviously the first time you are going to be tense and nervous maybe even a bit aprehensive and maybe feel that it just aint right. try and relax thinking of how good it is going to be, go with the flow so to speak maybe you should invest in a decent lube as trying to use a vibrator whilst you are dry is always guaranteed to cause pain and discomfort
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2005): Use it externally first on your clitoris. This will moisten you up and get you into it.
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