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writes:I have a very good female friend who I am very fond of but she does seem to need to compete with me. I don;t know if this is a sign of jealousy, but she was at my house as I had invited her for tea and she suddenly said she needed to leave. I thought she must have somewhere to go that evening (it was Saturday) but I did not say anything. The following day she messaged me on Facebook to say that when she got home she suddenly remembered when she got home that she had an event to attend in her local village (it was a drinks do) and that she had also invited lots of people for breakfast that morning. Now to be able to do that, you have to plan if only for the shopping! I realised that she did not want to invite me so she had pretended to have forgotten the event - so she didn't need to mention it until the following day. She knew that I had nothing to do that evening and I live alone so it would have been a nice change for me and i know perfectly well that she could have invited me to such an event. I just do not understand such behaviour between good friends and I have invited her to join me for many events… what do you think?
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 February 2014): p.s Face Book? why did she not quickly invite you via face book while cooking breakfast? Are you sure this event even took place?
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 February 2014): nobody 'forgets' this, what a crock of xxxx and to insult you by blasting it all over face book speaks volumes.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 February 2014): Is this typical of her behavior?
If it is, you can ask why she does it and you can request that she invite you along to events.
An alternative is to expand your friendship circle which means you won't sit at home wondering why she's not inviting you out with her. You'll be too busy with your other friends.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 February 2014): Sounds like one of my friends. It sounds like your friend wants to prove she's better than you to make herself feel better, my friend used to do it too and for years it irritated me beyond belief but then one day I just decided to ignore her. Literally everything she did, everything she tried to make better than me, every time she threw a party when I was having one, I just shrugged it all off, never mentioned any of it to her and gave her absolutely no attention as far as this behaviour was concerned. Pretty soon she got the picture that I just didn't care and other people started to see what she was doing and eventually she stopped. I mean, I honestly don't know what it is all about, I never did, but that's how I stopped my friend. Literally everything I wanted, she'd get before me, anywhere I wanted to go, she'd have been, she'd have parties and not invite me. It was all very petty and childish but the second I stopped caring, she stopped doing it because she wasn't getting a reaction out of me. It's a very childish game. I hope this helps in someway although it doesn't explain her behaviour.
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