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writes:My friend has liked me for two years, but I REALLY don't like him. He follows me everywhere, sits next to me when possible, and always talks to me about sexual things. I liked him for a little while in 8th grade, but that was 2 years ago. Now, he's just annoying. One of his friends likes me too. He even gave me his number, but I don't like him either. I mean, he's funny and all, but he's just a friend to me. I try to be as nice as possible to both guys. How can I let them down without hurting their feelings? (I like another guy, btw) Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 December 2007): Hey there :)
Sigh, I wish there was an easy hurt-free way of letting down guys but there really isn't. I've just had to turn a really nice guy down and it didn't go well. However, it was necessary, and in your case it seems necessary too. The best advice I can give you is that honesty is the best policy. Make sure that whatever you tell him/them is 100% how you feel. I made the mistake of being a bit vauge to Mr. Nice Guy and he misinterpreted this as me liking him. Then he got really upset when I had to explain it to him.
So basically, sit down with this guy and tell him that he is making you feel uncomfortable/awkward, and that you realise he likes you but you are not interested in him in that way. Make sure you dont just add anything you dont mean, just to be nice, like 'im not interested RIGHT NOW' because believe me he will keep hounding you forever then.
You need to expect that he will be hurt, but thats life! Seriously, we all get hurt. He WILL evenetually get over it. And if he keeps following you or starts being mean to you after youve explained - then youve done all you can and he needs to get a life.
Good luck! And remember - honesty!
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