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writes:Hi, im 14 and my best friend is dating a guy that isn't a very good influence. I know he does drugs, smokes and drinks and i know she does to. I don't really want her to be with him because he is such a bad influence and i don't want her to be pressured into things. I also wan't her to be happy and she is happy (i think) with the guy she is dating. I have no idea what to do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 May 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThankfully she broke up with him, But she wouldnt tell me why right away, It turns out he ended up hurting her physically. But now theres a new twist . She's dating another guy. This one isn't as bad hes a bit of a pot head but nothing serious. She also still likes the guy who hurt her... Me and one of her other friends have talked to her about him and told him to stay away from her. Thankfully hes moving when school is done i don't want to see her get hurt anymore.
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reader, Justtryingtohelp  +, writes (16 March 2011):
 To be honest, you can tell her how you feel and that you don't want her to be pressured.. but from experience of my own and my friends, she'll probably do what she wants to, even if deep down she doesn't actually want to, and likely later regret it as well but from our mistakes we grow.
Hopefully nothing bad happens to her or you.
It's very good of you to be so concerned though, you seem like a lovely friend.
Best of luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 March 2011): I totally understand how you are feeling. Not even a couple of days ago my best friend started to date this really bad guy.(We are also 14.) He did every bad thing known to man. She didnt drink or smoke or anything, but he did. He was such a bad influence, and me including a lot of our friends tried to talk her out of dating him! But, he ended up dumping her, leaving her broken hearted!! But, we did warn her! So my advice would be to just pray for her (if that is your style!)Dont keep pushing her to not date him. She will keep saying she wont dump him. Just dont acknowledge their presence when he is around her. But just let her know your their for her. Everyone needs to make their own mistakes so they can learn!! She may learn the hard way, like going to jail for doing drunks and drinking as a minor, or she could get dumped really bad. Or even worse, raped!! I know, as her freind, you dont wan these things to happen, but she apparently wont listen to you, so she will have to learn for herself!
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 March 2011): look sweetheart, i know it can be hard trying to be a good friend, you dont know what to do when you have to choice between the right decision and someone's happiness, but the truth is only she can make that decision. To be a good friend sit her down talk to her about how you feel, but support her on her decision, good friends are there to support decisions, and pick up the peices from the wrong ones, but only she knows what will make her happy. She has her own mind, she will know what to do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 March 2011): A lot of girls your age (and 5 or 10 years older that you too) are attracted to guys like him BECAUSE he does those bad things, not in spite of it. Girls like her might say that's not the reason they like him, but that's usually just a lot of self-delusional BS.
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