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writes:I have this friend, well i say friend i have a little thing for her, i mean when i have a thing i cant stop thinking of her, my mouth goes dry when shes near me and shes so beautiful. But one huge problem she had a boyfriend, i really don't ever want to mess anything up between them too because if i did i'd end up with them two hating me and them two being a bit weary. But i don't know how to get over her.. i've even tried talking to other girls but all i can think about is this girl, but her and her boyfriend i mean wow they are so in love..Plus she's one of my best friends and she tells me everything, and then she's always asking me to come near her all the time, my friends give me fales hope because sometimes she flirts with me but i just see it as like fun flirting not like serious or anything. At first i didn't even pick it up but its just the fact my friends told me. I really don't want to get over her because i have really strong feelings for her, but i know i have to get over her but i dont know how..is there any way i could??...
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 January 2008): I am in the same situation. The way I see it, the only way that I will get closure is to tell her how I feel. Whether she feels the same way or not is where you have to go next. If she doesn't feel the same way, then if you truly care for her, you'll be glad that she is happy. If she does feel the same way about you then it will be a slow process. Let her make the next move, this may take a while. Now if you just can not bring yourself to telling her how you feel, I would suggest slowly breaking away from the friendship. It will only hurt you more to be around her and it will be easier for you to get over her the less you see her. Hope this helps.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 November 2007): hmmmmmmmmmmm..... that is hard well you have to try to forget about her and plus there are other fishes in the sea i'm sure that lucky girl will come out sooner or later, but if you cant get over her then i guess you'll just have to tell her that you love her....
i wish you all the best.......... GOOD LUCK!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 November 2007): Heyy thanks for your answers :)
and shes found out i like somone from my other friend, and now shes on my case asking me to tell her who it is..ahh im still not 100% sure i want to tell her, but when i said i'll tell you latter she put this sad face on and when i asked her whats up she said im just abit hurt you dont trust me with these things id tell you. and like yeah i always tell her things shes got to know.. i dunno why she wants me to say im possitive she knows its her.. lol.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 November 2007): Does she know how you feel at all? It sounds counterproductive I know, but I have a friend who's kind of in the same boat as you. He's had a thing for me for about 4-5 years now and has even dated other people. But I have a bf (almost 2 yrs) and it's fine. We're open with each other, and it saves a lot of awkwardness for the most part. Just by knowing the score, when he needs space I can understand, and little things like that. Plus, it makes it a whole lot easier when we have a heart-to-heart cuz I know he's being honest, and that he would never intentionally do anything to screw up my relationship. So, it's up to you, and I don't know if your good friends with the guy or not, but IMO it always makes things easier when everyone's on the same page. gd lk!
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 November 2007): hey,
if you try to do anything i think you will ruin what you have ,so wait if it is ment to be ask her after they break up(if they break up) and if they don't you have to move on maybe you don't want to but you have to .
gd luckXXx
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