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female
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26-29,
anonymous
writes:I haven't seen or been in contact with my friend in over 4 months now , which may not seem a while to some but this is first time I haven't seen her in so long since meeting her about 4 years ago. normally it is just under 2 months when I don't see her. Obviously I like her as she's my friend but in the months I haven't seen her its made me think about our friendship, for instance she is difficult to do things with , can be quite negative , we don't really have the same interests and I have felt half the time she just wants to be get home when we have met up.she's not really one to go shopping or clubbing which is totally fine as everyone likes to do different things and likes to do there own things but because of this I never know what do with her and when I do ask if she wants to meet normally its we will go next week but then that doesn't always happen .I haven't really missed her during the period I haven't seen her but I have been thinking about messaging her and been wondering if she's ok but then I just think whats the point , its usually a chore for her to message back and she doesn't seem to like it when I ring as its always , what and why did you ring for , which makes me think whats the point in me even trying to contact you . is it worth having a friend when you feel this way , shall I get in contact with her or just see if she contacts me. Normally I would be bothered when I haven't seen a friend in so long but this time I'm not and I'm unsure of what to do as drifting apart is sad but a part of life and the longer I leave it, it will become harder for me to eventually contact her If I choose to .
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (16 August 2018):
 This friendship is drifting apart, and yes it is sad but these things happen in life as we get older. My advice would be not to give her a second thought! You don't need to contact her and she is showing you she doesn't need to contact you. Therefore I would put it to bed and use your time and energy on friends who appreciate it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 August 2018): This friend has been sidelining you for a while and I think you are better off to stay out of contact rather than go through the whole false charade again.
Maybe this friendship has run its course but if she contacts you by xmas at least you will have a lot of catching up to do.
As she has been making you feel uncomfortable about contacting her I would hold on and leave the ball in her court.
Meanwhile you must have found plenty of other things to do and hopefully new people to talk to.
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