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anonymous
writes:Hello,I really need help here... I'm engaged and living with a man for the past 3 years now..things are going well, and I really only have one complaint. He works these crazy hours and I almost never see him..now I know everyone has to work, so I'm not faulting him on that...but I recently made an online friend, and we chat on the phone, mostly about stupid things like, tv shows and our favorite foods...but now my fiancee is EXTREMELY angry at me for talking to him.This man lives in New Zealand and I live in small town Massachusetts. Aside from the phone and internet we have no contact. So I don't quite understand why my fiancee is soo angry at me. He has female friends that he works with, one in particular he talks about with me CONSTANTLY....which is fine, I mean, I want him to have friends. But I feel as tho he is trying to isolate me. Like it is ok for him to have female friends, but not ok for me to have male ones. This really bothers me because, I don't see my online friend face to face or anything..but he sees his female ones...I have to trust him face to face, but he doesn't trust me on the PHONE?I asked him last night if my online friend was a female would he be bothered by it as much? he said no...He then told me he thinks my online friend is going to move to the states and I'm going to toss my fiancee out to be with him...this is just crazy!He then told me his female friend from work said he could move in with her if he and I were having problems! I feel this is way out of line...am I supposed to be ok with this? why is he being so unfair to me?Thanks!
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reader, DV1 +, writes (21 May 2007):
 He is trying to control you, and you need to get away from him while you can.
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