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writes:I'm 21 and have been with my fiance for 4 years. My Fiance doesnt want to ever have sex with me. and I feel like he always has excuses. like: too tierd, legs hurt...ect. I think its all BS. Yes we both work a lot at our age but I'm so depressed. I feel like its point less to brake up over "no sex" I'm not saying we never do it. Only in the shower or mornings randomly and i can't enjoy it. I even bought a dildo/ Because I just want to you know. anyway, I'm really confused on this suituation. It really hurts that he does want to be intimate with me. Maybe its time to move on.....
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 August 2008): Dear Poster
I suggest you and your boyfriend need to have a nice calm loving heart to heart talk; tell hi how you feel; tell him what your needs and wants are; ask him if he could possibly try and fullfil some of them; make a few suggestions; also listen, and listen carefully to what he is saying.
Maybe you can try a few romantic things to get him in the mood a candlit dinner at home; a bath together with soft music and candles; give him a good body massage; oh there is so much and so many things; give it a try; you might be surprised how small things can change his mind and how the excuses and tiredness might just vanish
Do put in some effort rahter then to nag him; that will just make it worst.
Best wishes, have lots of fun and keep SMILING
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (24 August 2008):
If you are not having sex then really you are just good friends.
Make him talk about it. Tell him you can't marry a man who does not find you sexually attractive, and that you think you should break up.
Once you've talked about it then you may understand a bit better and be able to fix it.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 August 2008): This is a big problem, you say his you Fiancee, well you two can't get married if your not sexually compatiable. It's difficult to answer your question, more information is needed. It could be anything, you say you both work hard, and he's always tired. Well it could be that. Is he stressed out, is he depressed. How long has this no sex thing being going on? When did he first start turning you away? Has anything happened in his life, has somebody died, has he had problems with anything? Has he been looking at a lot of porn, does he mastebate too much and now dosen't feel in the mood? How is your relationship? Apart from working and having no sex, what else do you two do? Do you share hobbies and interests, do you do romantic things together, do you go out? I'm stuck, I need more information to help you out. Please update your post,and tell us how your old your Fiancee is. When you do have sex is it enjoyable, are there things that you refuse to do? Please update your situation, give us more information, so we can provide the advice that you desperately need. Take care of you babes, blessings.
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