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writes:I had been bought up around a drug infested enviroment.. I've never really found it a problem being around friends who do such drugs as ecstasy, amphetamine and weed. I've dabbled myself but left it at that. I've always been against heroin, ketamine and crack.. Yet my fiance will have a dabble with crack here and there.. When we got together I thought I could handle it cos the enviroment i've been raised in, but he's just gone off to buy some and I feel the ultimate of low. I love him so much and really do want to spend the rest of my life with him but I really don't think I can carry on with him smoking it.. It really hurts me, especially as we want to try for a baby.. I've tried mentioning it to him but he tries to justify it with saying how he doesn't spend all his money on it, how he's bought stuff for the house and what not.. And I really don't know what to do.. Someone please help me?!
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionTypo.. Cya was meant to be away
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHe does just dabble though, he does it every once in a while and has done for a long time, he doesn't crave it, just likes the sensation every so often. It's not an addiction, that's the thing, and I don't see it turning into addiction or him into a complete crack head cos it woulda happened long ago.. if it was he'd be wanting it all the time spending all his money on it, right? I mean, if it was an addiction I guess i'd have a more valid point (in his eyes) to try and get him to stop, but because it's not an addiction as such, he doesn't really see the harm in it, and I can't talk him around it.. And anon. I don't have any addictions myself, I don't do drugs and I barely drink.. And i'm not walking cya from him cos I know that it's not an extreme thing and it can be worked around, I just need help with how to do it?
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reader, QuirkLady  +, writes (14 November 2009):
 Lady, please get away from this mess. Crack is no joke and will suck you under soon. No justification is strong enough to stay with a crackhead. Think about your own health and sanity and make a stand for both by not staying with someone with such a serious addiction. It never works out!
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2009): What you really need to do is clean your own addictions up, then you won't be tempted to be with any man that 'dabbles' with this stuff, any stuff. What he does is not different than any other mind altering drug...they all go down the same road eventually, it's just a matter of time before you loose control of the situation and the chemicals control you. Some chemicals just gain control quicker than others.
I wish there was more positive information and help for people to get off addictive substances, it really is a very misunderstood thing..and might I add, dangerous!
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