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writes: I recently found out my fiance had cheated on me with a woman in another country on the internet. He had told her he was single and told her he loved her and would never leave her. However she found out about me and he came clean, telling me it was all a game. Then I found stuff on his computer where he said he still loved her and all I was to him was a friend he sleeps with sometimes.He tells me he loves me more than life and gets worried if I talk to blokes but he won't give this woman up. He talks to her via msn and email every waking moment and doesn't think it's anything to worry about. If I say anything he says I am moaning coz she is only a friend.Do you think I should be worried about this friendship? I know nothing can come of it as she is a muslim and he isn't. I also know she only thinks of him as a friend. It's not really her I am worried about it is his comments and reactions when I try to talk about it. Any advice will be gratefully recieved.Thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 September 2006): Then you need to tell him that you are tired of him lying to you and that he needs to log on and end it with her. Then go to couple's counselling to address any other issues that seem to be unresolved. (this is if you really wish to make it work before letting it go)
I think you have every right to be worried and feel betrayed as that is what he is doing to you; betraying you and to him, with your consent.
Have you asked to log on and have a talk with her; usually meeting the "other woman" will sour the fantasy and she will see you as more than a friend he sleeps with...seriously...he thinks that of you and he isn't lying about it...that he can even CONSIDER saying it speaks volumes of how he views you.
Just up and leave him...there are plenty of good men out there wanting to have a loving and commited relationship with a woman who knows how to love.
Best Wishes.
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