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anonymous
writes:so i know rape fantasy is very common among women. my fiance has always enjoyed this fantasy and has often asked me to "fuck her like im raping her". she will always tell me to be rougher or go harder. now she is quite ashamed about these fantasies or any others so she wont really talk about them in detail in regard to what she wants from me. she has not had the healthiest past so its hard for me to get any information from her however she has said she wants more realism to the rape and not to have to tell me to do things. often my fiance will tease me sexually for ages or just do things in a sexual manner for example she was vacuming the other day in a corset and nothing else, when i make sexual advances she will knock me back but continues to do these things. is she doing this because she wants me to pretend to rape her in these scenarios or not? i dont want to actually rape her and when we do the pretend rape fantasy she will often say "no please dont" i dont want to actually rape her but she really wont talk about it. what does she want?!!?!?!?!?
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 October 2011): Rape is nothing to joke about so there shouldnt be rape fantasies and people shouldnt say that they want to be raped.thats sick !
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (23 October 2011):
 Not normal at all.
I would seriously talk to her about it.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (23 October 2011):
 There is something wrong with her. This is messed up, and I think it bears talking about. It's one thing to have a rape fantasy (it's more common than you think), but it's another to let it interfere with a relationship.Sounds like in this area, you're sexually incompatible, and it's okay not to feel comfortable with it. Add to that the fact that if you really do rape her, it will damage her and put you at risk if she gets mad and accuses you of really raping her. There will be signs of physical trauma.So, I'd suggest that if you're interested in really fulfilling this fantasy, get it in writing to protect yourself. And then agree on a safe word to say when either of you are uncomfortable.However, I think there's morw to this than a mere rape fantasy. She sounds like something really did traumatize and mess her up in her past, and I think she should address it.
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