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writes: I am actually asking for advice i found out that my fiance of 3 years is cheating,but the thing is he wont confess to me even though he knows that i know he really did it.One day he told me that he thinks i should leave him because he hurt me and he cannot live with him self knowing that i am always hurting inside.I really love him. Whats that about? How do i forgive him for what he has done?
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 February 2007): My fiance of three years cheated on me not too long ago. It was so out of his character. I forgave him because I knew it was killing him inside and he knew he was at wrong and it wont ever happen again, It really made him wake up and realize how good he has it with me and how much he truly loves me. But i just wished it didnt take him cheating to realize that to begin with. It is so hard for me to get over everyday it will popped into my head and remind of the agony but i just have to push it aside. It hurts but it has definately gotten better. The thing is you have to get him to admit his wrong. My fiance said he thought about just breaking up with me after he told me because he just felt so terrible and figured i would leave him anyways. The only thing I can say that is helping our relationship is faith and hope in God. I wouldnt be with him still if i didnt have the trust and faith in God that it will be okay. I feel your pain and it hurts so much but you can forgive and things will be okay. We are getting married in June :) and if anything it has made of relationship stronger and happier. You learn from your mistakes and how to fix your problems. Dont live in the past but for the future and try not to dwell on it. God can get you through anything you just have to have faith.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 February 2007): At least he is telling you he hurt you, my fiancee' can't even man up and tell me. He just told me cause his other "girlfriend" came to me with everything and I printed his phone bill and see that he was calling both of us- back and forth all the time. Cheating is the biggest disgrace-- and the utmost disrespectful thing anyone can do. Especially when you trusted him.... walk away! If I can do it-- you can! Good LUCK!
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reader, Toria +, writes (19 October 2006):
 To me it sounds like by him saying things like you should leave him that tells me he is either trying to push you away and drive you out of the relationship or he is turning the tables back on you, he hurt you so he says you should leave so rather than him asking for forgiveness it'll be you saying you don't want to leave and things like that therefore him getting the upperhand again.
Good luck :o)
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 October 2006): No offense or anything, but it sounds to me like this little parasite is trying to push you away. He won't admit what he did but yet tells you to leave because he hurt you? If he cared about hurting you he'd be apologizing for doing it, not telling you to go. This guy sounds like scum, sorry. I think you're better off without him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 October 2006): Q. "How do I forgive hime for what he has done?"
A. You don't. Unless you want to sacrifice a peaceful, trusting, stable lifestyle for this relationship, you cannot, as a strong woman, go back to something so tainted. It is forever ruined. Trust can be rebuilt, of course. But never to the extent that is required in a marriage. I'm sorry that you are forced to accept either fate.
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