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writes: me and my girlfriend have been in relationship since two years.we often indulge in physical relation too.but for the past one year i have a strange fetish.i only get erection when i think of her sleeping with another man or when i think about her showing herself off in public..bcoz of this i have delayed ejaculation in bed.i ejaculate only when i fantasize her with another man and not coz we are making love...i m really fed up of this..should i bring my fetish in reality or cure it...and how do i cure it if possible...plzz advice
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 September 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for all your answers but i m looking for sumthin more...i mean i jst dont kno how to get over it as dese days i jst dont get hard without thinking about a threesome or her with another man....is it bcoz she had tld me dat she isnt a virgin....she had one bf with whom she had sex twice before me..i even get stimulated wen she tld me how she had sex with him against her will wen i questioned her...sometyms she acts like a slut for me bt i have neva tld her about my fantasys otherwise she will dis regard me as a pervert
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 September 2011): I don't think there's a cure for that fantasy. It's really exciting. Accept that and enjoy it, just for yourself or with her. The problem is that she doesn't turn you on herself. Just focus on finding a way to be turned on withouth thinking on that and you'll feel much better. Tell her to do a fantasy you had in mind or something like that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 September 2011): This fetish is quite common with men and don't read too much into it, because you probably will never act it out in real life. These images and desires are rooted in this idea that if your woman is having sex with another man, it just means that she's desirable and fertile, and you want to compete with other men by disseminating your seed after someone else has been with her. It's a visceral and innate thing that has been with men for generations.However, you shouldn't act out this fetish or fantasy because reality is always different from how events play out in your mind. Instead, just tell your girlfriend about your thoughts and ask her to occasionally role play the fantasy by way of dirty talk during sex, but leave it at that. On occasion, just pretend that someone else is having sex with her while looking in the mirror during your sexual encounters. But don't act it out, because I'm speaking from experience here, and there is a chance that there could be some hot chemistry between the third party and your girl - if that happens you'll be lamenting your decision.
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