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writes:My boyfriend and I will be together 2 years come August. I'm Chinese and he's Indian. Our relationship has been great up until this past February when I wanted him to meet my family, my family stated they will not accept him. His family is kind and accepted me already. This has caused a great strain in our relationship. I feel I've been picking fights with him because of this stress. I pick fights over stupid things to see if he will stick with me regardless of anything (yes it's immature). In the last 2 weeks, I picked another fight with him and in the heat of the moment I said I was done with this relationship. I know he's very hurt and I apologized. We haven't made up and are in limbo and we agreed to talk face to face this week. He has said it is very important for my family to accept him, he's very frustrated he has to hide in the background and he made a comparison of a wedding he attended where both sides of the family were so happy and accepting. I want this too! But I can't change the way my parents are! He's putting me in a situation where if I tell my parents I have continued to see him despite their wishes my parents will practically disown me, my mother has already threatened suicide. What do I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 July 2010): I'm truly sorry that you are in this situation. Really, there is no quick fix to this. You need to get them to sit down and accept him. If he's a really great guy make the arguement that the only reason to dislike him is because he's Indian. Show them how pigheaded they are. This is a sticky situation and there's nothing really anyone here can do but tell you what you already know.I wish you the best of luck
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