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male
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hi, i'm gay and has just recently broken up with my bisexual boyfriend. I can tell he's bisexual because he left me for another girl who had been trying to get between us and seduce him while we were together.We've broken up for more than 3 weeks, and my ex would do everything with her now. It hurts like Hell because he practically cheated on me (lied and denied, etc). I found out the girl apparently has a boyfriend and it annoyed me. She has already a boyfriend and yet was lustful, desiring for more and ended up stealing my boyfriend from me. Now she isnt even making him happy because she'd control him all the time, cyber bully him with her friends in twitter, etc.I hate her so much that i have been complaining a lot in facebook and twitter lately. I address her as a "bitch" without specifying it is her. I don't have a lot of followers in twitter (asked my ex to get out of my life, in which he decided to block me and unfollow me everywhere). So i have been using twitter to vent since i know nobody too important can read my messages anyway. Recently i posted an extremely crude comment and actually included her name, albeit abbreviated to 2 letters.Today my ex called and was furious. He yelled and shouted and was so angry with me calling his "friend" a bitch. He questioned my resentment to her, everything. I was arguing with him for hours using the phone, shouting at each other. His reasonings were all extremely selfish and faulty that i couldn't buy a single thing. I am frustrated that the girl actually had the guts to complain to me about this (i wonder who actually stalked my twitter now) and made him do this to meHe told me he still has a bit of respect on me, but i'm totally going overboard lately. He claimed that he left me because he didn't want me to be over reliant towards him (notice he didnt say clingy. He is denying our relationship). He still sees me as a friend and wants me to promise i wont ever do this anymore. And he said, when i have changed he will reply to my texts again. Then he murmured "hopefully before the end of this year..." soon before we shut off the phone connection.Fyi, the past 2 weeks were so horrible that i decided to ask him myself, to cut off all contacts with me. As a cheater he tried to sound friendly and told me he was just "busy" and etc which made me clingy. After i asked for a break up, he said we should still stay friends, yet he ignored and avoided me the entire time till i couldnt take it anymore. He even referred to me as a schoolmate so many times. Not even the word "friend"I am heartbroken and frustrated now. I dunno what to do. Just when i could finally make the move to get over him, perform the "No Contact Rule" for a week, he called to ruin everything and gave me this false hope of suddenly wanting to be my friend again. I seriously want to move on. But this poor me from deep inside my little heart saw a hint of light and gained this pathetic fraction of faith from his "when you have changed, we be friends again". I don't know what to do now...I wanted to have this chance to reconciliate with him. But after all these, i doubt we can truly stay as "friends". And i really still love him. If anything, i absolutely wish i can be with him again without that bitch being in his life... Sigh
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reader, Boonridge McPhalify  +, writes (8 August 2011):
 if you dont want contact with a person it is up to you to keep them out of your life than the other way around.
you dont have to answer his texts or calls.
chose to be free of this situation and then something better will come along after all this shit has died down.
she may have slept with him or may not have but really if he is saying that you two were friends you need to see him as the user he is. clearly he saw you as just sex.
you can do better.
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reader, Moo's Mum  +, writes (6 August 2011):
 Dude you have really messed this up by venting on twitter and facebook. Dignified people get far further in life that angry bitter people. Keep all these thought in your head and if you must write them down get a diary and pen and write it all in there. You've lowered yourself to the same level and the girl you hate by doing what you've done.
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reader, VSAddict +, writes (5 August 2011):
 Why would you still want to be friends with him? He cheated on you and didn't give you the respect you deserve, so what would make him a good friend? I think you're wasting your time trying to reconcile with him. Don't stoop to the girl's level. She chose to cheat and be mean. So don't think about her and keep thoughts of her out of your head. And this guy really isn't worth being friends with. But if you really want to, then you should apologize because you did call her out her name and she's important to him, so that would make him mad. You know that she's not a good person, so let others figure it out for themselves, even if they might get hurt in the long run. Hope this helps.
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