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writes: Ladies, help please. I recently starting talking to my ex again after about a couple of months of not talking. She called me out of nowhere we met up and things were great. I was in love all over again. We were together all the time, did gf and bf things together and even slept together. All of a sudden she is so mean, hanging up, always nervous with me and all I'm doing is being so sweet to her, trying my ass off. She tells me that she doesn't want to talk no more. I leave her alone and she calls me back. It's so weird. I don't know what to do anymore. I feel my heart starting to break again. Why did she come into my life again to hurt me again? I really want to be with her so badly. I'm in love with her. Does it sound like she still cares?Someone please help me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2006): Whether or not she really cares I couldn't tell you, but it sounds like she is doing this simply because she knows that she can have you back at any time she pleases. If you want this to stop, you need to make it clear to her that you are willing to move on without her if she doesn't want you back. Whether or not that is really how you feel, you have to at least bluff so that she can make a choice and stop stringing you along. I say all this because I was recently in her shoes and know how she feels. I was being really emotional and taking a lot of time to decide whether or not I would get back together with my ex-fiance`. I unfairly took this out on him. I kept ping-ponging back and forth with him. One day I loved him and acted like a girlfriend, the next I said I didn't even want to talk to him. I was confused. I knew I could have him back at any time, so I took my sweet time. He got frustrated with it, though, and he started talking to other girls, asking to meet up with them and such. I got so jealous. I called him crying and he explained that he talked to those girls because he was confused and simply had no clue whether or not I would ever want to be with him again. He had every right to do what he did, and I didn't. I asked him to be with me again, and things really took a positive turn. He doesn't talk to those girls anymore (of course) and I don't ping-pong back and forth about how I feel. We are getting married in October. All this happened simply because I realized that I had to make up my mind and decide whether or not to be with him again. Things may not work out the same way for you, but if this girl is going to stop dawdling and stringing you along, she has to realize that she could lose you for good if she doesn't make up her mind. That's exactly what I realized, and although it was somewhat painful, it worked out for the best. Give her two choices here: yes or no. There can't be any maybe's anymore. Get your relationship out of limbo and move forward, with or without her. I hope this has been of some help to you. I apologize if I rambled on. I wish you the best of luck and I hope that everything works out okay for you in the end. Take care!
~RJGirl
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