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writes: I'm 32 and my ex is 22. We dated for a year and three months, and then he left me for someone else. After four months, they broke up and he came back to me wantin to get back together. He cried his eyes out, apologized profusely, and talked about how much he learned, how horribly he's treated everyone in his life he loved, how selfish he is, and how he wants a long term relationship. He also wondered how I could ever trust him again. He claims that he left me for someone else "to see what else was out there," and now that he has, he's realized how great we were together and how our little disagreements were really nothing at all. He seems genuine to me, but then again, he's only 22. I only want to be with someone who wants to be with me, and who wants a long term relationship. The complication here is I started dating someone two weeks ago who's very sweet and romantic, who's also my age (32), and who wants the same things in life. But it's only been 2 weeks. Now, I always believed that my ex and I had a great relationship, until he broke up with me. Now that I'm seeing some of the sweet and romantic things this new guy is doing, I see that my ex wasn't quite as romantic, though he was sweet. I'm so confused and just don't know what to do. Should I give it a shot with my 10-year younger ex, or stay with my new guy? I feel like it's a no-win situation for me.
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reader, shania  +, writes (19 April 2006):
 This is a difficult one,your ex has turned up because things didn't work out with his girlfriend,you have met someone else who seems to be on your wavelength but you have only being with him a couple of weeks.Lets say you took your ex back...could you ever trust him again? Could you forgive him for leaving you?...could he do it again? You see,while he has confessed that he has been selfish and weak,he still only 22 years old,and while im not saying that 22 yr old men are not mature enough,he is still young enough to make more mistakes...on the other hand you have a boyfriend who is the same age as you...has probably seen a bit of life and maybe would like a future with you eventually...but its early days.I think you will have to weigh up on what you really want.Its easy for me to say..stick with your present boyfriend but i cant.I think you should tell your ex that you need more space and more time to think because he cannot expect you to drop everything because it suits him.If he really wants you then he will wait,but please take your time.
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