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writes:i ask you to bare with me in this question as it is a little complex to my mind and there's alot that i need answering lol. i am confused about the feelings that one of my ex's feels towards me. i have known him nearly 2 years now and since we broke up after a month of being together, he became rather protective and, in some circumstances, possessive. every relationship i've been in since him, he's added the guy to his facebook, i went to a my mates works christmas party and, i'm not proud to say that i drank so much that i passed out... 7 times in the space of 5 minutes. when i woke up he was stood over me looking like he was having a heart attack and my friend later told me that he'd been screaming at her for letting me get in that state. i apologised to him for it and he only said that he didn't care as long as i was ok. we've started talking alot more and begun to understand each other alot better, it's kinda weird really coz he's alot like me. i recently got into my first real relationship and lost my virginity, he saw us in a store and started an arguement with me over text and he found out that i wasn't a virgin, he got really pissed off and got even nastier. after that we didn't speak for 3 months, during which time we both became single. we started talking again and he seemed like a completely different person, he was caring, called me beautiful and he made me feel fabulous again. we met up and, yes, we ended up having sex but it confused me. we'd talked about him take my virginity, though i never let him get that far. i was expecting him to be more focused on his pleasure but instead he was constantly asking how i wanted it, whether i wanted to be on top, whether i wanted him to put my legs over his shoulders and he was constantly kissing me, not rough kisses, i know this is a soppy way of putting it, but it was like the kisses in the movies that make you go awwwwwww. we sat and talked about things before and after we had slept together, he didn't try to rush me into anything and he got me to talk about what had gone wrong with the guy i'd lost it too. everything was going brilliantly and i was finally picking up the courage to ask him out again, till i saw he'd got with someone the very day i was going to ask. we still talk and that's what makes me even more confused, he still flirts, says stuff that you really shouldn't say to someone when you're in a relationship. i'm sorry it's so long but i hope you can see why i'm so confused and you can give me the help i'm so desperate for. he means a hell of alot to me and i just want to know what i should do anf whether i have a chance with him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 April 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you for your replies ppl :) they helped put a few things into place, i really want to ask him out but the problem is that he's still with this girl, i've told him how i feel, and he's even admitted that if i'd asked him out sooner, he'd have said yes. we had a thorough talk about things and he kept saying things like 'we're still young and things change' or 'lets just stay friends for now and see what happens'. i don't really know what to think of this to be perfectly honest, when he has mentioned the girl to me, he never uses her name, he simply refers to her as 'the girlfriend' and he told me things that he and her had done sexually, saying that she was on webcam to him. it really hacked me off and i don't think it's respectful to her to be telling others that sort of info :( i'm still really confused but your replies have given me the courage to simply ask him out when he is availablt again, because i'm not bitch enough to steal him from her :/
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (18 April 2010):
 What you see is not what you get. You may infer wrongly about him . You should not be deterred by such small incidents.
If you like him, go for it. Ask him out and you will know where you stand with him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 April 2010): I can uderstand why he got mad about that virginity thing because he obvoiusly still cared about you a lot.
I think this dating someone else is his unconscoius payback because to him it might of seem that you betrated him even tho you weren't together.
I'm sorry it didn't work out when you wanted to ask him out.
You should talk to him how you feel because you might never got him back because he doesn't know that you want him.
He definitely got a thing for you
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