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writes:I'm a little confused about a certain situation and not sure how I should react.My ex-fiance's sister recently posted personally to me on fb that if I observe something (didn't say what) I will obtain great wisdom and also, that if I pray to God he will answer my prayers and bring to me what I have been hoping for. She ended the post saying she missed and loved me. Although, I was a little confused by the meaning of this I simply stated that I loved and missed her, also and hoped she was doing well. Shortly, thereafter she sent me a personal message talking about things that have been happening with her mom (she is elderly and ill) and about her job and that she cherished our friendship.I have written on this forum before about how devestated I was after my ex had ended our 7yr. relationship and immediately became involved with someone else and about how that relationship had ended a few mths. later. I had prayed throughout that we would once again reunite but, that never happened. He soon after met someone else who is an alcoholic or at least a drinker like him and just recently married her after only knowing and dating her for two mths. His sister and I have always remained in contact mostly of her annitiation but, throughout this entire ordeal have never discussed what her brother had done to me or what he was up to. Anything I have ever been informed of concerning him was from close friends. She did of course, inform me that the first relationship had ended in hopes that I would try to reconnect with her brother...I left it alone and never brought it up again. When I had been informed of his recent upcoming marriage I will admit I did contact her basically out of disbelief that he would be getting married to someone he hardly knew and so quickly after the demise of the other relationship. I was surprised to find out that she knew nothing about it. She reported back that she couldn't believe her brother was doing such a thing and that she thought he had totally lost his mind and that she was very sorry and wished he would wise up. I again, did not offer my opinion on the subject.Well, long story short the marriage did happen and as such I have decided that in order to move on and try to get over any remaining feelings and hope of reuniting with him I needed to sever all contact with anyone or anything to do with him. I have not commented on anything she has posted since on fb or spoke with her since the marriage and had not heard from her up until now, either. Now she has sent me these messages and I'm not sure why that is. She has to know that this has been a very long, frustrating and painful road for me so why start sending me vague messages of sorts to confuse me. Your insights and advice on how to handle all this would be appreciated.
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reader, katiekate +, writes (29 July 2012):
 At this point, you need to do what is best for you. If severing all contact, including contact with his sister, is best for you to heal and move on, then that is what you need to do. Her cryptic messages do seem odd, especially if she had never behaved in such a way before. But I wouldn't read too much into them or attempt to figure them out. The fact of the matter is that your ex is now married to someone else (from the sound of it, he is a lost soul and jumped into these two relationships haphazardly), and with that being the case, you deserve better anyway. For him to throw away what was seemingly a good, long term relationship with you for some fellow alcoholics or "party girls" (which, at this age is pretty pathetic), well that just proves that you are too good for him anyway! Do what you need to do to continue to move on and try not to interpret these strange messages. Good luck to you!
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