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writes:is there anything i can do about this im devasted ive just heard my ex fiance got married about 5 months ago.i wasted so much time-he did want me back but due to circumstances i didnt do anything-what an idiotanyway now hes married-i feel like a lost cause.i know im going to get things like move on etc but i really really loved him and cant bear the thought of never seeing him again. im not a horrible person but i am crushed i dont want to ruin anyones life but do you think in the futute something could happen im in a mess please help
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reader, dearkelja  +, writes (15 July 2009):
 You are heartbroken, not a lost cause. In life, timing is everything. For you, this is harder because you may have felt that the two of you would get back together and you were holding the cards. Unfortunately, he moved on and is not not an option for you.
The very same thing happened to me. I wasn't ready to be with the guy and he did wait for three years (dating another woman all along.) He called me one day and asked me if I was ready and I said not yet and told him to give me some more time (I was married at the time and going through a divorce). He then said to me "well, I'm going to say goodbye now and I will see you in heaven." I hung up and just figured he'd be there when I was ready. Well, he married the girl he was dating. I'm ready now and it hurts to know he moved on. But it hurts worse to know my own actions caused this. I will not pursue anything with him. I do not know if his marriage will last, I hope it does. I'll not even contact him.
I think in your case you have to go on with your life knowing he is not an option for you and you need to begin a new life without him in the picture. Yes, it's hard but if anyone says there is hope then you will just waste more time not living the life you should be living.
So, in the words of my ex...I guess you will see your ex in heaven. Take care.
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