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writes:My ex recently got in touch with me after he broke up with me several months ago, said he missed me and wanted to work through things. It would be a long road but he is not going anywhere. I so want things to work out so thought great. We started to spend some quality time together, we spent a really good weekend together, and things were looking positive! we saw each other once a week for the following two weeks. He told me he was looking forward to see me. We agreed that it was important we have our own lives and do things with friends also, which i agree with. The last date we had was also good, but since then he has been a little off, and not making much effort. I am giving him lots of space, having my own life, seeing my friends and letting him catch up with his friends. However think it is important we meet at least once or twice a week if we are to work on things. Then two weeks after things were going well he says seeing me confuses him and that he wants to be single at the minute.. i know he really loves me. So what can be so difficult?Confused! I feel really confused right now, very mixed signals! am i asking too much too soon?
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reader, Determined2817 +, writes (23 May 2009):
Determined2817 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionUpdate: He initially said he wanted real distance and was going to change gym, i decided to take a week off myself, only to have him calling me asking why i missed gym and was i avoiding him! how strange. When i see him there it's good to catch up and is like nothing has changed between us.
He has called me several times to see what im doing, is really sweet on the phone and sends the odd text reminding me that my favourite programme is on. Really small things but nice! but the moment i suggest casually we do something over the weekend, he doesn't reply..
Is this mind games, control or just confusion!?
Still very confused, trying very hard to understand and sit tight. I spoke to his best mate and he is indirectly saying dont give up.
It's a tough one!
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 May 2009): Hi. Wow, i am having the exact same problem. I cant really give much advice except for this: If he truly loves you & truly wants to be with you then he will make the effort. Dont frett over it & yes i know thats easier said than done but play it cool. Just give it a bit more time. Let him sort his head out. If after a couple of week he still hasnt bothered then put your foot down & tell him that you want to know were you stand. You deserve to know. Dont let him string you along. Goodluck! I hope it works out for you.
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