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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:My bf of over a year, we really loved each other when we were together and we were so perfect together. We got really close, he was my best friend, and my everything not to mention my first real love.But we used to really argue about little things, like at school together i wanted him to spend more time with me and he spent most of his time doing other stuff with friends and the arguing got to both of us cuz we couldn't see eye to eye on it.Then, a few months later, I got back close to an ex, then I realized I still had feelings for him. As soon as i realized this, I stopped talking to him at once, because I didn't want to jeopardize my relationship, and I was COMPLETELY honest with my bf about all my feelings from day 1, never lied.Then, we went on a break cuz his parents were trying to break us up, we were arguing kind of, and we had exams. I asked for the break. and i went and kissed my ex during the break.That hurt my bf, and I paid for it for a long time, but we were fine for months after. But even before I kissed him, my bf had got really close to his ex gf, and i warned him against it, but he ended up falling for her again and he wouldn't stop talking to her for me and we argued about her, and about the fact that now he's in university he hardly has time for me and how he's always talking to her. He called her his best friend.. I was so... my God, i mean WE were best friends u know?And he went on a date with her like twice and LIED to me about it, i had to find out about it from someone else, and when i confronted him, all he does is take off his phone on me. He lied to me about talking to her too, and he hardly called me or anything anymore and it's her he's always talking to, although we still loved each other!! And he kind of flirted with other girls too before. And i mean i understand i hurt him, but he treated me like crap, and I did EVERYTHING for that man, seriously. We were going to get married, and he wanted to have kids together and stuff. He said now he's sorry for everything but we need to move on... and he says he still loves me but he cant stand the fact that i'm going away to university next year and all the arguing is making him unhappy.. but we only argue because of HER and i feel i can't trust him with other girlsBut if you really love someone, wouldnt you try to work things out anyway even if they're going away for a few years or would you completely just give up a future with the person you love? And he's still really close friends with her although he said he wont be with her cuz she's not me, but he still kinda chose her over me and we had soo much together... it really hurts and it's so hard to give up something so beautiful. He said he still loves me but he's not in love with me.. but he knows that if we got back close he would fall for me all over again, but he's afraid that he won't get the time since i'm leaving next year.We're not talking anymore and it's really hard but i do it... it's just i don't understand anything... I don't know if when I come back after 3 years, we still have a chance or he'll be in love with her now and we'll be too distant... but i was his first love and all that too... And after all the crap he put me through, i dont even know if i should take him back. i mean does he really love me? he cried too when he told me he wanted to move on and he said he doesn't think he'll ever love anyone else.... i dont get it...
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 November 2008): coming from a man's side of the story i'd say he's just dreading you being in a school away from hime getting attention from other guys and all that its tough for guys but we dont like to admit it so to me it sounds like he loves you but is trying to let you know at the same time he's tough and can survive without you just to see if you'll have second thoughts about going away im sure he'd rather be with you and work out other arrangements for you to get your education, seriously guys just dont tell everything it really does sound like he loves you
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