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writes:I went through several back surgeries that did not work out well, the doctor kept me on pain pills for 2 years and this really put a burden on my marrage, financially, physically, and for me mentally. At that time my boss at work was in charge of our medical insurance so we talked alot about my problems and how the coverage was helping me, he seem to be very concerned about my condition. Well he started to care a little too much, he started to call me at home wanted to meet and he would drive my my house and park down the street just waiting for me to come out, I was scared to tell my husband I never know when to open my mouth. I talked to my boss about it and ask him to leave me alone I told him I loved my husband things were rough but leave me alone. My ex-boss (now) destroyed my marriage. He wanted us to be together he was in love with me and needed me. I guess the attention I was not getting at home any more grew on me, my husband and me ended up ending our marriage. For five years this man (whom has money) supported me, wine and dined me, and molded me into what he wanted. You know the crap lies he would leave his wife after the kids were all moved out. Lie after lie until he ran out of lies and found a new sucker. I woke up one day and bam he wanted nothing to do with me any more. His wife still knows nothing so his life is fine, but I can't move on I want revenge, I want to die. I had my life destroyed. Its been five years since this happen and I still can't move on.My ex has remarried and has 2 children now I pray he is happy because I know I hurt him so much back then. What can I do, Its not fair. Please help me.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (13 September 2007):
 Oh it's fair alright. This is how most mistresses end up, alone and bitter. Hopefully you can straighten out your thinking, especially that stupid revenge idea, and decide to live the rest of your life with some honor and integrity. Remember that it was you making the decisions that put you in this position.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 September 2007): You let him do this to you & your marriage. You aren't innocent. You were with him for 5 long years & left your husband for him, why? Because he had money? You obviously didn't love your husband as much as you say you did. I think you wanted to be with your boss & when he dumped you, you then wanted your ex husband back b/c your fantasy life didn't work out like you planned & he has 2 kids & is now remarried & you're left alone & dumped. You knew he was married too. You brought this upon yourself. You should have told your husband the truth from the start that your boss was stalking you or whatever, and told your boss to leave you alone & not have been lured into his trap. All you can do now is learn from this & think things through more next time if some married guy with money promises you the world.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 September 2007): I am sorry to see your predicament. You have been used by this man and discarded when he has tired of the relationship.But perhaps this is a time to reflect on why you chose this relationship in the first place. You knew he was married, yet you continued a relationship with him for 5 years. Can you put yourself in the position his wife is in, having a cheating husband who is dishonest and self centred. Please dont take this the wrong way ,but he is not the only guilty party here, you were having an affair with someone else's husband for 5 years.If I was you I would count my blessings that he's gone, he obviously has a controlling personality so be thankful you are rid of him. Its time to pick yourself up, dust yourself off and try and get into a relationship with someone who is prepared to commit themselves to you and you to him.Good luck.
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