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writes:After 4 years of being investigated, called a liar, told i`ve been keeping secrets,out of the blue, my now ex accidently sent the wrong number to my mobile. Instantly her face showed an expression i had never seen before. It was now time to do my investigations. Would you believe it, now the shit has hit the fan, she has done everything she has been accusing me of. Never was any argument solved, as usual, i deserved it, it`s my fault for keeping secrets from her.I have been fired at for so many different things,the cause of the argument was overshadowed. At this time a very close family member is terminaly ill. All i seem to get is how bad her life has been,how i`m this, how i need to change, my ex wife is a prostitute, the list goes on. I am now being sent hate texts. Not once has she showed any interest in how i feel. Any retaliation to her abuse was met by tears, not for anything but herself. Yes,i admit through some doubt, i did keep her at arms length. Funny how she did everything when things were going alright for us. I am now the bad one. The one who dumped on her again. I do know i began to really love her, but is there a time when you must say love just isnt enough? For all the allegations,I still can't picture myself with anyone else. Any mature advice on getting myself out of this cycle would be greatly appreciated.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 May 2007): yes there can be a time to say love isnt enough. She has betrayed you,if you dont leave her,she will think you are a wimp and do it just because its on offer and she can. I know one thing is for sure,she hasnt any thought for you. Her firing back is because she wants to dodge the issue. Theres 3 ways your life could go. 1,stay and live with the risk of not only a lifetime of unhappiness,but even the risk of contracting a sexual disease. 2,You get through this and meet someone who will make you happy and not lie and betray,and isnt cheap.(theres still a few of us around) 3,You stay single,get bored,a bit lonely at times,but its your option to change that. Whatever you do nothing can be worse than being betrayed and cheated.You have been a soft touch,and she knows that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 May 2007): The only advise is to change your no. delete hers. Just cut off ties completely. As bad as it seems,you will move on, unless you want to be miserable for the rest of your life. underneath all this she is probably very insecure,therefore she will throw herself at the first opportunity,and of course you will be the last person in her thoughts.After reading this it strikes me that she may need professional help. I have seen this go on before. Of course,the break ups where never her fault.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 May 2007): Things are never as bad as they seem. Forget your x.She is clearly cheating and dont be suprised if you find out more. Its amazing you didnt demand to look through her phone and accounts from the day she ever accused you. This is a clever way of covering her tracks because you were always on the defensive.Its no way of working. I would advise you to assert yourself in the future because unfortunately,there is a lot of unfeeling people in this world. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 May 2007): I know is not easy - but u just need to move on.You cant rewind and do any day again - so stop wasting each day you have from now on in your life and put this behind you - which is where it is (in the past) and where it belongs.
I know a trifle blunt - but there isnt anything else you can do. Start living for you cos when the dust settles and she has moved on she wont give you a 2nd thought as she obv dusnt give a toss. MOVE ON NOW - ive bin there.
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