A
female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hey everyone,My dad has been having an affair with a worker (my dad is the boss and this lady works under him) for wayy too long now,my mom found out about it and he said he stopped,but lately he's been having sex with her again!and I'v met that woman I never knew she was the woman if I did I would ask her to leave my family alone..!and even today I was looking thru his cabinet for some medications and I came across a cover and it was condom packets..what do I do?my mom will stay in this relationship for as long as she can,she is very traditional,but how can my dad do this?I can't even look him in the face anymore..I'm disgusted!what do I do?do I tell my mom?
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 September 2012): I would confront your father before telling your mother, though there is the possibility that your father will lie about the continuation of the affair. However, there is the chance he will give you the truth, which can ease the situation of how you confront your mother after.
Unlike a commenter below me, he owes you an explanation. He's your father and his unfaithfulness certainly has an effect on the family. He's an adult and by his age, even if he's unhappy (which I can empathize with), he needs to take responsibility. The relationship b/w parents does have influence on the children and what the future will be like (though you seem to be of the age to respond maturely).
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male
reader, anonymous, writes (15 September 2012): Tell him the truth, that he is your father and his actions disgust you.
That you wish you had a father you could look up to and respect.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 September 2012): You are a woman and think of him as your "daddy". You perhaps see him in one way: as a parent.
Try to think of him as a man who has his life and his problems. He's not only there to be your dad, he wants happiness for himself. He may have cheated on your mother out of pure selfishness, or to feel more powerful, but he may have been deeply unhappy in his marriage.
Whatever the reasons, I would stay out of this. He does not owe you an explanation.
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