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writes:I don't know what's wrong with me at the moment. I feel as though my brain isn't engaging and my focus is lost.Im almost 21 and instead of acting more mature and getting organised I feel i'm losing the plot. For example I act very irresponsible; leaving heaters on, leaving back doors open to my mums house (where i live) so anyone could walk in, not putting my hand break on my car where It almost rolled down the hill into public space and could of caused great damage and danger to others.I'm almost scaring myself and my mum is very angry and at her wits end with me. She's always tended to treat me like a child but wonders why I can get myself together. I wondered if there was any advice to try and work on my issues?*I have lately gone through a stint of depression which has been going on for the past 5 years on and off. Reply to this Question
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reader, BrownWolf  +, writes (8 August 2016):
Question...You KNOW what you are doing wrong, and yet you make no attempted to improve, and then come down hard on yourself when things go wrong? WHY??
Your mom treats you like a child because you are doing childish things at 21 years old.
Your depression stems from the fact that you should be acting like a responsible 21 years old, yet are treated like child, which you have cause for yourself...Knowingly. This causes a conflict in emotions. Like your adulthood is being taken away from you, and you don't know how to stop it.
Easy fix...
Listen when your mom speaks. Do what you are told, and think before you act...These are things that make a good adult. More so...a respectable adult.
You brain will not engage if you are not using it...If you don't use it, you will lose it.
A brain not being used for wise thoughts, becomes a home for foolishness.
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reader, Denizen +, writes (8 August 2016):
 Do you think it might be worth having a chat with your GP about this? Did you have medication for your depression? That could be one significant cause of your forgetfulness.
Sometimes though life is just too full of other stuff, and your mind is on to the next thing before you have finished the last. Perhaps try and slow it down a bit.
I'm always forgetting where I put my reading glasses. I have to consciously put them in one place. The trouble is I have more than one place where I put them.
Don't get too stressed about this. We all go through periods like it. However if you are really worried consult your GP.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 August 2016): If you are distracted by love make your feelings known to your potential other half being clear about whether it's love, lust or both?Are you wanting future babies to love and care for?Make that clear if it's an issue, but take the plunge and you could end up happier and more accepted than expected!A journey abroad, even a package holiday could clarify if he is the man for you!If it is difficult abroad you will become aware of it without others in your circle knowing but make sure the man of your dreams is respectable enough for you and not an internet liaison.You need your own approval only to be happy but you may find unexpected well wishes if you are confident in your selection.Be careful who you choose and don't go haywire over the wrong guy!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 August 2016): Your brain is on overload and you should try to engage in as much calming activity as possible.Swimming up and down a pool can be an enjoyable mind clearing experience and keeps you fit and supple as well.If you cant swim take a course of lessons as it will open up new fields for you.On that theme do as much enjoyable relaxing stuff as possible!
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reader, Andie's Thoughts +, writes (8 August 2016):
 Get therapy for the depression and start learning to be more organised.Use sticky notes to remind yourself to lock the back door and turn the heaters off. Put an alarm on your phone at night and/or during the day to check that you've done it (if you're meant to do it that day).Create a chore chart for yourself and include locking the door and turning the heater off, then only tick it off when it's done. Print a new one out each week.Put a sticky note pad and pen in the glove compartment of your car and use one to stick on the outside of glove compartment saying "handbrake". When it falls off or isn't sticky any more, put another one there before you forget.Buy a book about improving your memory because you're only really doing these irresponsible things because you don't remember to do them and they aren't a priority to you, which they should start to be.
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