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writes:Dear Cupid,My "boyfriend" is going off to college this year and I don't know how our relationship will turn out. I trust him and he trust me and we promised we would tell each other when we moved on or something. If you been through college this would really help...Do guys really go crazy in college, do they really have sex and all that?And I been with him for over a year...do you think he would cheat on me? like sleep with a college girl? cuz im still in high school Reply to this Question
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reader, fmlaxgirl08 +, writes (26 February 2011):
This is a hard question. And I am in the same position. First of all. What type of guy is your boyfriend? Has he ever given you a reason not to trust him? What was he like in school when you first met. Has he cheated before. If he has, hes going to do it again.I was a sophmore when I dated my boyfriend. He was a senior. We dated from Feb, to when he went to college. He ended up going to Cornell which is 1 hour from where I live. When he finaly left for college I knew it was probably over so I told him to go out and meet people and whatever happens will happen.He ended up just kissing 2 girls but that was it. And honestly..thats pretty damn good for college considering how many frat partys are at Cornell. He came back and visited me and told me that he still wanted to be with me. Sometimes distance helps you realize how much you miss someone that you love. But sometimes it can do the opposite.He said he wanted to date me again and we have been together since. I trust him. He likes to party. He's not crazy but he does. He's in college, who doesn't like to party? But my guy would never cheat. If your guy loves to party in high school and he was always out partying it will just get worse in college and that's the honest truthIn the end? What type of guy is he? Think about it. But be flexible. You may need to give him some space in college. Thats when people find themselves. I was lucky. But if he really loves you he will come back. Dont be that crazy girlfriend. Be understanding. Believe me it sucks. I cried every night. But that's love, it sucks but now everything's fine.
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reader, tinkerbell191 +, writes (2 January 2011):
hey i'm in the same position and by the time my boyfriend goes to college we will be dating almost a yr and about 5 months...im so scared and i don't no how to take it he tells me all the time nothing will ever change nothing at all i only love you but ppl tell me all the time if he loves you enough he will be only commited to you i am always telling him that i wanna get promise rings so i can at least feel secure that he is mine and mine alone...i cry every night just bc im scared but don't sweat it just talk to him and be honest with him and see his reaction...:) i hope it works out for all you guys :)
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reader, vball3456 +, writes (15 August 2010):
I am in the same position. My boyfriend of a year and a half is going to college this year and im going to be a senior in highschool. We are planning on staying together since he is only 3 hours away, but its still hard. Im not so much worried about him cheating on me because we trust eachother. Im more worried about us changing and growing apart. College is a big step in life and it really chanegs people. And now that I am going to be basically by myself, ill prolly be changing too. So, I wouldnt worry about him being faithful because if he loves you he wont cheat on you because you should be the only person that he want to be with. Just make sure that you are aware that one day when he comes back to visit, he may not be the same boy that you fell in love with.
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reader, Meggs12 +, writes (31 May 2010):
Well my boyfriend is also going to college. Thank god its only 45 minutes away from me and my school. But if he truly cares for you, and does a lot of things for you and looks at you differently than other girls, then i don't think you have anything to worry about. Yes, there will be some parties, and obviously drinking. But don't listen to people when they say men can't control themselves, because they damn well can if they really try. Don't worry, i feel the same way as you do, but i trust my boyfriend, and he trust's me. That's all that counts. You just have to trust. And if he does something bad to put your relationship at risk, then he isn't worth it. Everything happens for a reason.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 August 2009): I know what you're going through because my boyfriend just left for college too and i just started my senior year. My advice would be not to worry so much because I do and all it did was hurt our relationship. It's an exciting thing that's happening so be supportive and talk to him about it. I'm sure he will assure you and if he really loves you then he wouldn't even think about cheating on you. He'll be so busy with work so try not to worry.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 August 2009): i am in the exact situation this year.. my boyfriend just went to college and yea you have a lot of ifs ands and buts, i have been dating my boyfriend for a year now and we do trust eachother with everything we have. now what you need to do is trust that he will not throw away a year or so of your relationship for one night of pleasure.. you need to trust in that with everything you have. because i am also in high school.. also i suggest that you two both get webcams so when you call eachother everynight then you can also see them. me and my boyfriend have been doing that and it's relieving to see his face, it makes it feel like he's not that far away.. to make a long story short.if it's meant to be it will all work out in the end.live and breath that sentence it will help. and remember to stay positive and relax go out with your girls and have fun it will take your mind off of it for a while you cant stress over it..and always remember that you love him and dont stop him from taking opprotunities that he wants.. it will all work out in the end
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 August 2009): I have been dating my boyfriend for over a year. I am going to be a senior this year and he is going to be a sophomore in college. The first year he went to college, I remember being so upset and worrying about so much stuff. As much as we trust each other, I had issues with trusting other people, other girls. It's not easy being away from someone that you're so used to being around so it's important to really work at your relationship. The good thing about where he goes to college is that it's only 3.5 hours away so we would see each other every other weekend. He would come home for the weekend and then I would go down there. Just keep positive and confident in your relationship and give it 110 percent because it will work out for you. Good Luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 August 2009): Mine left, too.
It's hard not to freak out. But there's no use worrying. If you trust him, he probably won't. And if he does, trust that he'll tell you. And you can worry about it then.
If you worry now, it'll just make your relationship suck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 August 2009): Trust is a state of mind. You verbally say you trust him. You try to make yourself believe it even. However, it is apparent that the foundation of trust in your relationship haven't even been built yet. You may have a framework, but you have no foundation.
Strangers, around the world will have absolutely NO definite answer to your questions. We can only assume that there is a chance he may or he may not. We can only assume he may break up with you or hey may not. We can only assume you may cheat on him or not. We can only assume you may choose to break up with him or not.
We absolutely do not know anything about him, nor about you, nor about your relationship. The chances are there, just as the chances an earthquake may happen somewhere in the world tomorrow, just as there is a chance of showers tomorrow, just as there is the chance you may find a penny on the ground next Tuesday.
Your questions will warrant no accurate answers. It's like trying to 'predict' hindsight, which is a paradox.
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