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anonymous
writes:last month, i made the mistake of sleeping with both my ex and my current bf a week apart... i am now pregnant and dating it would mean it is my ex's baby... he says he had always loved me but now i've hurt him [because i never told him when i slept with him i had a new bf] and he doesnt believe that the baby is his, but my boyfriend says it doesnt matter and he will raise the child as his.. i dont know what to do because if i take what my bf says, i am scared that my ex one day would want to suddenly be a part of my baby's life and eventually confuse the child in the future...
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 September 2007): i would just like to say you must have a good man there a man who is willing to stay and raise a child as his own is a good man!!! congrats.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 September 2007): Well, that's a possibility. But how do you know it's your ex's and not the current b.f.s? If you slept with both of them a week apart, it could be either one's child. If you marry your current boyfriend before the child is born, then he will automatically be the father legally. Just have him sign the birth certificate, and tell the ex that he needent worry about anything, and never speak to him again. Most likely if the ex is saying it's not his and he does not want you back, he will leave it be. Just marry the current boyfriend, have him sign the birth certificate, get a paternity test privately because it could be the current man's child, and if it is, you'll have nothing to worry about in the future. But make sure that the current man can really handle this..if you have not known him long, I would be weary of trustung that he will actually raise the kid as his own for the rest of the kid's life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 September 2007): my sister was once in your situation and from her experience it is best to come clean with both men and stick with the one who will be by your side through thick and thin.
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