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writes:I have been going out with a guy for the pass 7 months we get along well and we like each other. He has been abroad working back home for the pass 3 months he will be gone for 7 months. We are in contact daily and I am going to see him in November.When he went away he gave me his brother's number just in case of an emergency or something and he gave his brother my number.Me and his brother have been talking on whatsapp. Last week me and my boyfriend had a disagreement and I vented to his brother yesterday.His brother then sent me a message saying that he has seen my pictures and that I am beautiful and my boyfriend is crazy to treat me like that. He also asked if I had seen him first would I have gone for him instead of my boyfriend.I felt very uncomfortable with this. He asked is it ok to call me baby. He has also told me things about my boyfriend that I did not know. Then he asked me to give him some money.What should I do? Should I tell my boyfriend about what his brother has been saying? He know that we have been talking on whatsapp but obviously not about this.Please giv e me some advice please!
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 August 2013): You should have checked yourself and not vented to his brother. It's never a good idea to tell another guy that you are having problems with the primary man in your life. Men (even brothers) have a way of misinterpreting things like this. And for all you know his brother was feeding him things to tell you to see if you would bite. From now on watch what you say to both of them.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (27 August 2013):
 the brother is a total loser..
hitting on his brother's gf and asking for money?
I would
a. cease contact with the brother
b. let your boyfriend know why you ceased contact with the brother if he knew about it....
I think the boyfriend has a right to know his brother does NOT have his back.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (27 August 2013):
 I would just unfriend him and not tell your boyfriend. His brother is very low. He is not a friend and actually hopes that you will break up with your boyfriend, or at least cheat and give him a few hundred bucks. I would not tell your boyfriend because you alone can handle this, just by ignoring him. If the brothers talk there is a possibility that they would side with each other, with the brother saying you initiated all this. Blood is thicker than water. Sometimes family members refuse to see the bad sides and try to protect them. If you keep talking to the brother, he is getting the signal that you are inviting more and more so it's best to cut all contact.
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