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writes:Ok, I should be old enough to know better but I would like some input please. I have met a very nice man( so I thought) on a dating site. We clicked. It's been 4 months now and for the past month I got a gut feeling. Not a good one. So the one and only time he left his cel unattended, I looked. Bam he had been txing his ex whom he says he doesn't ever talk to. Lie #1 Next, I decided to check out the site where we met, his profile is still active, I logged on with a different name and wrote him and he wrote this person (me) telling them a bunch of lies about where and what he's done. When, I had enough I confronted him with this information and he says I wasn't him and he doesn't know what I'm talking about because he hasn't been on the computer in weeks. I have proof and he still says it is not him. I know it's over but still care. Please help.Thanks
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reader, lexilou  +, writes (15 September 2008):
 Okay one thing I will say is that my sister nearly lost her new guy who she met on a dating site because her ex from same site had her passwords, regularly logged onto her dating site and replied to blokes who contacted her saying she wanted to meet up despite being with her guy. It ended up with police involvement when the ex started letting himself into her house at night when she was asleep. Im not saying your bloke is telling the truth but only that these things do happen.
As for the texting the ex thing, some blokes, stupidly, tell us what they think we want to hear whether or not its the truth. (and women do it to men of course too)
I think though that gut instincts, womens intuition, whatever you choose to call it are often right. Only you can decide if this guy is worth one more chance though. The only real proof you may get is if you arrange to meet him using a different profile, if he turns up you know he has been lying all along but you would maybe need to enlist the help of a friend to meet him for you. However this may not be the sensible thing to do but sometimes its hard to let go until we get the truth. Maybe just follow those initial instincts and chalk this one up to experience but dont let it put you off internet dating, not every guy is the same x
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 September 2008): U deserve better im 18 and you are at least 20 years younger then my nanna whom is 70 shes still active and "down" with partys. U still have ages to meet the one for you give up on that good for nothing "Man" as he calls himself
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