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writes: My boyfriend was trying to see me and another chick at the same time.I seen her leave his house and I went in the house and we argued and she called while I was there.I answered his phone and told her I been sleeping with him also.Of course he took the phone and hanged up and went downstairs to call her back and cover his tracks up.I also told her he cheated on his last two marriages and he has a std and he cheated on his 2nd wife with a prostitute.He's visted prostitutes quit a few times.He has a professional career and thinks he can buy his way through life.Do you think he will cheat on this new Gf also and do you think she keeps all this data in the back of her mind? He made her think I was this crazy XGF.He made me look like the bad person when he was the low down scum.
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reader, Star_07  +, writes (15 December 2007):
 I once told the "new girl" about my ex, I told her EVERYTHING. I felt bad and really stupid as she is still with him. But now I feel that she knows the truth and whether she believes it or not is up to HER. I think its can be a good thing to let people know the history of their new found guy and hey, they can benefit from it but it may take TIME. Her realization wont happen over night!
I think you have done your part to try to help this girl. You told her what you know and now its up to HER to either believe you or not. Maybe the crazy ex girlfriend thing will will work for him for a while, but like the other posts said, she will find out eventually and put the pieces together!
As for you, you need to move on and find someone worth your time!
Cheers!
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2007): Bottom line. He played around.She knows it, deep down. She may be determined to look the other way right now. But if/when it happens again she won't be so accommodating.Sooner or later he will fall, and fall hard. And he'll only have himself to blame.But the most important thing is not hold a grudge. Forgive him , trully forgive him and move onto someone else.Flynn 24
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2007): yes he will cheat on here and she will find out over time and she will find out that your not crazy...if it really bugs you though just do what taylor swift (the country singer) would do tell every one he's gay
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2007): Well apparently he already has cheated on this new girlfriend if you say that he was seeing both of you at the same time. I know how incredibly hurt you must feel about this. That is a very painful thing to go through. And I don't blame you for going a little mad when you saw what you saw. I know that being rejected by someone in the way that he did it is one of the most hurtful things in the world and it really toys with your emotions. It can make you lose your sense of self, your self control. But if you keep showing them how affected you are, you are only making yourself look bad. If you keep going mad and dwelling on this its not going to change the way he feels about you. And it is definitely not going to make him realise what a scumbag he is. Its only going to make you look bad and he is going to have more stuff to hold against you. So, from now on, you MUST keep your composure. Let him be. Let her be. And do everything you can to put this behind you. Cause this guy has brought out the worst in you. You don't need that in your life. But maybe he has been trying to end things with you for a long time and you haven't gotten the hint?? And perhaps this relationship has dragged out so long that it has led to this?? And in no way am I excusing his behavior. Cause I don't really even know what's going on.But what I do know is that a guy who would do that to you is worth nothing. So don't keep putting more value into him than he deserves. Take this rejection with dignity. Accept it. Go home. Take lots of deep breaths. Cry your eyes out if you need to. Write all your feelings in a journal. Call up a friend to talk to. Grieve this loss and this betrayal on your own without letting them see your hurt and anger. F*ck them. Who cares about them? I mean she may remember what you said to her but she may be just as stupid and naive as all the rest and let him sweet talk her into believing that he's a keeper. If you really want justice then be strong and don't ever lose your composure again. Don't call him. Don't look for him. Don't run into him. Just let him be and grieve on your own. You will be MUCH better off. And if he is such a scumbag as you say he is then OF COURSE its not going to work out with this new girl. He is just going to do to her as he's done to all the rest. But if you only want things to go awry between them in hopes that he will come back to you, then you are just being pathetic. Don't be pathetic.
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