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*reen Jolly
writes:Well yesterday me an my boyfriend was barely talking he send me an message an he takes forever to text back. So lastnight he finally told me we was sleeping,i told him i love him which he said it back. The last text he sent to me was text me in the a.m an dont forget so i said okay im not. Morning text messages talking about off the wall things an stuff like that. He told me' he tells me he feels like our relationship is an waisting our time. I really didnt know what to say at the point of time because i didnt know how to react to that.so i repled back saying i dont think its an waste of time i just said something isnt right. I really need help on this situation because i truly love him an im in love with him. He says we barely talk an see each other, im 16 going on 17 an when it comes down to my mom taking me over to his house its not long or she doesnt take me. He never came over to my house i went over to his once but yall the other times we went out to the movies or meet up at the mall an things like that. We been to gather for 9 months, 2) He wants sex but i told him i wasnt ready for that an he said he understand that. It seems like all his girlfriends he had from before came to see him when he ask or tell them to. We stay about 30 mins away from each other. may you please help me i need help at this point of time any advise? what should i do?should i give us an brake? i really need your help..
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (25 June 2012):
 You are happy to have a guy to text. He isn't happy with "just" that. He wants the sex too.
I think you are doing the right thing in not giving in and having sex to try and "keep" him.
I too think you should try that break, but of a permanent kind. He is wanting different things then you do. Why drag it out, he obviously isn't the guy you want him to be.
Good luck.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (25 June 2012):
 I agree with SVC. I'd take him up on the 'taking a break' offer and see what happens. He sounds like he's either lazy or not all that interested in making the relationship work. He wants sex, you don't.
You two aren't really on the same page, are you?
I'd let this one go, sorry. The good news is that once you break up, you won't be missing the chance to date someone closer to you and more interested in an equal, mutually respectful relationship.
Good luck!
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (25 June 2012):
 sounds like you are having a relationship via texting...
It sounds to me like he's wanting to end it....
30 minutes apart when you have no regular easy transportation is a long way...
he wants sex you don't
if he asks and they come and he makes no effort to go to you then he's lazy....
I think maybe taking a break and seeing what's around in your area might not be a bad idea....
seems to me that a breakup with him is looming on the horizon... better to be in control and do it sooner rather than drag it out...
so next time he says it's a waste of time you should probably agree and take a break and let him be and see what happens.
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