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writes:I've been with my boyfriend for 7 months ...we have a great relationship and fantastic sex....his job means he has to work away recently I found out that he stayed in a hotel with his accountant I looked on his fone and discovered he hasn't been faithfully to me through all our time together.....we are going on a cruise in September and he's even mentioned getting married on board the ship and has asked me to up sticks and move to his home town..I love him so much I don't know wether to confront him or put up with it I hate the thought of him having sex with someone else ...he really spoils me ....why aren't I enough for him....he's already got four marriages behind him ....he's 62 I'm 47....please help me Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 February 2015): Either dump his ass or milk him and let him spoil you loads and then piss off .
why would you want to be with somebody who cheats ?
And 7 months isn't too long so love wouldn't of built up much
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (11 February 2015):
 Jeeez, why WASTE any more time on this guy?
You don't love HIM, you love the IDEA of him. The REAL him is a cheating scuzzball who for APPARENT reasons have already tried marriage (and failed) 4 times already.. guess what? I BET he cheated on every single one of them.
It's not that you aren't enough, this is not about you. It's about him. He wants what he wants WHEN he wants it, you are just a "added bonus" for as long as you are willing to put up with his crap.
I'm sure you won't listen to the advice here, but I'd walk away now before he makes a total fool out of you with a succession of affairs.
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (11 February 2015):
 My "2 cents worth" is as follows; 15 years is a lot1 15 years from now you'll be 62(his age now and he'll be 77. Think about it. You could stay with him but you better get a bunch of life insurance. I don't think the marraige will last that long though with him "cating around like that. What do his ex-wives know that you don't? Think hard on this. Good Luck. With any luck at all you'll get one of those they all got sick and returned early cruises.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 February 2015): Have you met this "accountant?" I've known a cheater or two in my day and one thing I know about cheaters is that they usually make up jobs and aliases for the people they cheat on you with. It is a preemptive way of covering their tracks. That way if you ever find out, like you just did, he can come back and say, "are you crazy? That's my accountant!" "She didn't spend the night, we were up all night doing my taxes! Sheesh! You are so jealous and suspicious over nothing." This accountant is probably not even his accountant. Or even AN accountant. Gosh, what's worse is that I actually knew somebody who told his girlfriend, when she became suspicious of the "other" girl, that the other woman was his accountant. He sounds very dishonest so I wouldn't confront him just yet. I would keep digging, find out everything you need to, real solid evidence. So that he can't deny or manipulate the evidence later when you do confront him. Once you have irrefutable proof that he is a cheater, confront him and then show him the door. And say goodbye and let his accountant deal with him.
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reader, CMMP +, writes (10 February 2015):
Why do you think he has four marriages? He rushes into things and he cheats on people.
Don't be number five. If you want to stay with him you'll have to accept infidelity as it seems like that just party if who he is. You can always open up the relationship and have some fun of your own.
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