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writes:MOD Notes: OP's own title: Well I just turned 14 a few days ago. My boyfriend is 15 and he will be 16 in december. He comes over to my house a lot. We usual hang out in my room. My room is in the basement. I usual have family members walking down stairs looking at us so they know we arent doing anything. My boyfriend came over on my birthday and he kept saying he wanted to have "Oral" sex or "Anual" sex, but I don't want to. I would never really want to have eather types of those sexs even if I was older. Then he said we could just have sex. But I would rather be over the age of 18 before I do anything so I can finish school and go to college. We have been dating for almost 5months. We have told eachother we love eachother and we both keep a close eye on eachother. We have only made out. He usual lays on me when we make out but I make sure he keeps his hands up. Hes gotten to 2nd base. (Hands on chest inside or out) But thats as far as hes ever going to get. He always tries to put his hands down my pants or up them. I told him anything he wants to do he has to do from the outside. I told him he HAS to keep his clothes and parts to his self. He says ok but last time he didn't listen he took out his penis and tried to have sex with me. I pushed him and turned over and said "No, I said no". He listened but what if he doesn't listen next time and I can't stop him. What would I do? Please help.
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reader, KidfromLA93 +, writes (31 July 2010):
A no is a no , if he doesn't respect that and he is keep pushing you then its not okay. You have to sit down with him and ask him if he could wait , if he says no then he does not love you obliviously. Now is the time he has to proof that he loves you. I know it sounds hard ,but thats the truth. I know a lot of guys who only date some girls because they want to have sex with them , girl thinks she is being loved , they just get lies and when she decides to have sex with him she thinks they still will be together ,but no after a week they break up. The girl was just being used as a toy , i think thats the lowest thing that some guys can do.
I know many girls who have been used like that and the ones who lost their virginity they regret it for the rest of their life's.
You seem like a very smart girl who knows that she has the right to say no.
Other thing is that guys like that get pushed from their friends like they say "if you don't do it with your girlfriend you are a ***** " , but whatever its stupid and guys in that age get the hormone push which makes them go crazy and aggressive sometimes , but he is being influenced that does not mean he can't think.
Unfortunately you have to find out if he really loves you or he's just playing games with you. Its going to hurt a lot ,but its for your own good.
If somebody loves you then that person is willing to do anything for you.
Remember talk to him and ask him to wait , if he says no then look for somebody who really respects you and loves you.
Be smarter than him.
Always remember if you don't feel well you can talk to your family and friends , if you can't talk to them about that , turn to this website there are many persons here who help you and like to help you.
I wish the best for you and you know what to do ,its very hard ,but in the future i promise you will not regret it.
Bye
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reader, help1992  +, writes (31 July 2010):
He needs to respect you and how you feel, you have only just turned 14 ! If he trys to force you again get rid of him you shouldnt have to be pressured to do something you dont want to simple as that !
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 July 2010): if you dont want to do anything dont feel like you have to ...ify ou already feel like he might take it too far maybe you should talk to him...i hate to say it but you guys are young and his hormones are raging....maybe you might consider talking to him about how you really feel or maybe break up ...you should be with someone that respects you and your wishes, if you are not ready he needs to not try so hard dont give in.....i lost my virginity when i was 15 and i truly wish i had waited...you should too
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