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writes:I've been with my boyfriend for over a year now and am very happy. However I feel that he is frustrated with me because when he performs oral sex on me or uses his fingers to pleasure me he notices that I'm not getting pleasure from it, he gets really upset and downhearted about it. He asks me to tell him what to do, but I can't really do that as I've never really been able to get into touching myself. I've tried to explain to him not to focus too much on the end result but he says he just wants me to experience what he does. I can't think of what to say, and its becoming a bit of an area of tension in our relationship because he feels he's letting me down. So if anybody could give me some tips of things that work for them, that would be great thanks..x
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 March 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the advise, I'll guess I'll have to try again, even though in response, I know plenty of girls and some guys that do not masturbate and they are not emotionally scarred, I think that's just a personal choice. Thanks for taking the time out to answer my question
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 March 2010): I would suggest you figure out what is wrong with you emotionally on why you can't touch yourself. "I've never really been able to get into touching myself" is a pretty dumb statement. How do you expect him to know what to do if you don't? If you don't fix your problem soon you are going to have a lot of problems in the future. I was suggest that you tell your bf that he isn't doing anything wrong and that you have all the emotional problems.
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reader, Entirely Unique +, writes (22 March 2010):
 I only really have two tips.
The first one is the one I would recommend and that is you need to learn what you like and want and what does it for you before you can really expect someone else to be able to find that out and once you know you can also help him in that way.
The other one is to fake it and give him the boost he seems to need, I personally wouldn't recommend this as I believe in some way you are lying to the other person by doing so.
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