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writes:my bf of ovr 22 yrs says he doesnt want more kids, but the way he acts during sex and how he seems to not be so worried about geting me pregnant and asking when every month my period is due and we always eem to have sex only during the most fertile times of my cycle lol does this mean he is secretly tryig to ge tme pregnant? and just should i go by the old saying? " actions speak louder than words here?? help!
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 November 2012): Its not nice to play with mother nature :) be careful
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2012): I think what's impotant is if YOU actually want children with a man who claims he doesn' want any. If not, then you need to take precautions.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (14 November 2012):
 I'm with Cally on this one..
It has to do with pheromones PURE and SIMPLE.
However if the two of you do NOT use any kind of birth control and he REALLY doesn't want more kids, I think you are BOTH playing Russian Roulette.
I have NEVER met a guy who said I don't want any more kids to their partners face but still actively tried to knock them up. It makes no sense.
However, if he doesn't want any more kids HE should ACTIVELY use a condom EVERY time or get the snip snip done.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (14 November 2012):
 does he understand how cycles work?
I mean if my husband asked "when is your period due?" it's not to plan to impregnate me as he would have no clue when I ovulate as he does not get how cycles work.
and why is this a concern... are you not on good birth control?
and Candid Cally is right, it's pheromones... isn't nature cool? women are most attractive to men when they are ovulating....
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2012): I had a boyfriend who didn't want kids but wanted to have unprotected sex. Then tried to make me have an abortion. He got himself a daughter. You don't play around when it comes to bringing another life into this world. You don't want kids then use protection. You better be sure it's what you both want too.
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reader, Candid Cally +, writes (14 November 2012):
It has to do with pheromones.
When you are fertile, your body produced hormones that a guy can sense and it makes him unconsciously desire you. It is a biological mechanism...but one he probably is not aware he is influenced by.
If he has told you that he does not want children, then he does not want children.
If you want children, he is not the man for you.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (14 November 2012):
 What YOU need to figure out is whether or not you'll be happy when he DOES, finally, knock you up....
After all,... you're fully aware of what he's trying to do.... and - nowhere in your submittal - do I see that you are trying NOT to be bred.....
Cripes... how transparent do we guys have to be such that you women can't see CLEAR THROUGH US??????
Good luck....
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reader, shrodingerscat +, writes (14 November 2012):
 When you are at your most fertile peak in your cycle, you give off strong pheromones that your partner can sense, and it raises his libido. Simple Biology.
He's not doing it consciously. He can't help himself.
Since he doesn't want to have kids with you, perhaps you two can start using some birth control instead of risking an unwanted pregnancy? I think it would be very irresponsible of you two grown adults to continue not using proper birth control methods when you're both old enough to know the risks of sex without them.
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