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writes:Basically.. I'm goin out with a guy who's got a court case tomorrow because he got jumped on whilst out one night and used self defence. Unfortunately when the police pulled them apart, they found his work knife in his bag (He was not going to use it, he just was carrying it.)He's only 19 and his lawyer says there's a good chance he'll be going to prison for three months. His Dad has said if he goes to jail, the whole family are moving away... I really really don't want this to happen. He says he has no choice in the matter.. but surely he does if he's 19? His Dad can't control him if he's over 18.. am I right?Also.. his ex girlfriend keeps texting him saying "come and test out my new bed" and " I'm not over you, it's not fair that you've got a new girlfriend." Even though she slags him off behind his back to his friends.I'm pretty sure there's nothing going on if he's telling me this..He went around to collect the rest of his belongings and she said to him "You know we can't get back together now you're with her" and he said "Dont flatter yourself." and apparently she kept staring at him for ages while he was sorting through his stuff.I just don't know what to think atm. I find myself distancing away from him because I just don't know how to handle the situation..How do I deal with these two problems?
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 August 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionIn answer to Jeni's questions...
He's told me that he really doesn't want to move away because he's happy with his life here apart from the court case.
They've been split up for about 4-5 months and she kicked him out of her house because she "didn't love him anymore"
I don't think he wants to hurt her by blocking her number.. I think he'd like to stay friends but he's getting really annoyed with her and her texts at the moment.
His Dad is always putting him down saying that he's a layabout and that he's a waste of space and stuff.. While I was over at his house the other day his Dad said "Seriously, what do you see in him? He's hardly a looker is he? No hope for a good personality either."
If he really had nowhere to live, my parents would let him stay here.
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reader, pinktopaz  +, writes (13 August 2008):
His dad threatening to move could just be out of anger--or he really could. Even if so, no. Your boyfriend doesn't have to go if he's an adult, but if he still lives at home, then I'm guessing that will be where he has to go if he has nowhere else to live.
Secondly, I don't think you have to worry about your boyfriend's ex. If something were going on, he wouldn't even mention anything to you. He would be secretive about it. She's probably sounds lame and desperate to him, because she certainly does to me!
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 August 2008): Well first of all his Dad can't really MAKE him move away but who's saying that he dosent want to?
He might find it easier when he comes out of jail to move away.(No-one would know his past ect.)
& if ur b/f has done nothing wrong his family hardly need to move away.
& How long have u two been together & how long has he been broken up with this ex?
& if this ex is sending him un-wanted texts why dosent he just block her number?
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