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writes: I've been going out with my bf for over 14 months and last time we were making out he got an erection and kept putting my hand on it. I'm uncomfortable with this but every time I took it off he would put it back.So I just stopped it all together and said I had to go home. I talked to him about it and he said sorry, he wouldn't do it again. But now every time I think I about him I get all grossed out. This was more than 2 weeks ago and I'm still disgusted about it/him and I can't help it and I dont even want to hang out again until I stop feeling this way. Help; what's wrong with me? What can I do?
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reader, kdlady +, writes (20 July 2006):
Is it possible that you prefere woman? Not being funny or anything although you are too younf to be experimenting, I don't understand the level of sickness! Could it be the thought of a penis in general? Think about it?
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reader, willywombat  +, writes (17 July 2006):
 Then pretty much it is too early for you to be thinking about a sexual relationship yet. He is not the guy for you to be experimenting with if he makes you feel sick.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 July 2006): hey i wrote this.
and were both fifteen
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reader, willywombat +, writes (16 July 2006):
Can I ask how old you are honey? And how old is your boyfriend?
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 July 2006): In reply to the last answer, the fact that your boyfriend wants you to touch his penis has nothing to do with him loving you. A guy who is making out with any girl will do this, it's because it is a way to lead on to having sex, love has absolutely nothing to do with it.
I think you need to draw some boundaries with your boyfriend and tell him in no uncertain terms what he can, and what he can't do. You obviously arn't ready to embark on a sexual relationship, but he is. This could become a problem unless you are firm and stick to your principles.
In answer to your last question, there is absolutely nothing wrong with you. He is just taking things too fast. Stand your ground and make sure it does not happen again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 July 2006): well.......depends on how old u r........but it sounds like ur 13-16......im 13 and the first time i touched my bfs dick (by accident) i felt really weaird...but then a different day......i touched it again.....and sence then.....i touch it all the time! but yah.......its weaird.....i mean its ur bf's dick......its a little almost scary to think that u have actiualy touched it! dont compleatly freak out about it.....your bf must love you alot! if your 13-16.....most guys dont let just any girl touch their dick....and obiously he said he was sry bout it.......dont be grossed out.....just maybe talk about it with him a little more......and maybe get more confertibul with it (doesnt mean u have to look and it doesnt mean u have to touch it again) but dont think about it so much.....it just happens when you get older...i mean its already happend with me! u guys have been going out for over a year! ur bf maybe just wanted to go further.....dont be soo grossed out........its just a dick....just breathe....and try to forget about it......or confront your fears.....i really hoped this helped!
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reader, firety47 +, writes (16 July 2006):
I don't know how old you are but with relationships it is mental and physical. not saying that you have to do anything that you don't want to but if you don't talk about your limitations first how would he know. get over it and get back to being happy with your boyfriend before you lose him or scare him off.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 July 2006): he was obviously ready to go further physically than you were ready for. but he should have asked you if you would be ok with it before he went ahead and just did it. or maybe he was just reading the signs wrong, and thought that that's what you were ready for. either way, he seems sorry, and if you've been together for 14 months now and he's never tried to go any further, he obviously respects you. i'd try and give him another shot, and make sure he knows not to push anymore, rather to just let you go at the pace you're comfortable with.
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