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writes:I'm 23, I have a 3 year old and am currently 23 weeks pregnant. I've been with my boyfriend 5 years and he is abroad finishing a job and will be home in November. Me and my son have just come back home to live with my parents and to look for a house to buy. My boyfriend should have a job so we can afford the house when we get back.I did work before we moved abroad with my boyfriend for this 'amazing opportunity' that has left me with no money at all and he says it costs too much money to send any to my bank. From what I've read I'm not entitled to anything (benefits) because I am living with my parents. I paid all my bills before I left England and have come home to a £800 council tax bill from our last house which was rented and it's addressed to me because my boyfriend moved out a few weeks before I did. I'm so stressed and starting to get upset about everything because I have no job and can't find employment due to being pregnant again. I don't know how I'm going to afford another baby. I've bought bits for the baby already and have a few things from my son but I still have a lot of stuff I need to get before December. Everything seems so much worse and my children's dad is quite happy in another country providing for himself while I'm here and completely clueless about what I'm going to do. I ask him things and he doesn't have any useful answers.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 August 2013): Your boyfriend sounds like a total scumbag to be honest. No decent guy would leave his pregnant girlfriend without money or support while he kept every penny for himself. Have you told him how you feel about this? If not it's time for some harsh words with him. Does he have any family over here you could speak to about this? Your boyfriend owes you child maintenance and he can't decide not to give you it because he doesn't want to pay the transfer costs. You're going to need to get a lot tougher with him and start demanding what is rightfully yours. I'd also reconsider your relationship with him but that's just me.
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reader, Intrigued3000  +, writes (21 August 2013):
 Your boyfriend owes you child support and he also owes you half of that $800. If he refuses to pay child support, then you need to find a lawyer (try legal aid, if you can't afford one), and file a suit against him. He's coming back in November so I guess you'll get all your answers then.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (21 August 2013):
 Have you thought about getting child maintenance?
And call your bank and ASK them how much a wire transfer would cost, then talk to your BF and set him straight. It should cost that much.
That is pretty SHITTY of him to expect you to take care of almost two kids all by yourself. And I would still look into assistance - see what you CAN get while staying at your parents. Don't guess, go talk to them.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (21 August 2013):
 First: Forget about this cad who you let impregnate you, then ran off to who-knows what and where?????? .... and plan on spending the rest of your life without him. He's
"bad news".... and you deserve better....
Second: There IS no "second" as far as this creep is concerned....
Figure out how to live the rest of your life without this unbelieveably self-centered jerk in it...
Good luck...
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