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anonymous
writes:My boyfriend went on a cruise with his family. He texted me to tell me he was leaving to go to the ship but I have not heard from him since. It's been two days. It doesn't seem like him not to contact me. He has been on a cruise with his family before and emailed me everyday and sometimes twice a day.I am worried. I am also feeling left behind and forgotten about. Like he is having too much fun that he hasn't even thought about me. I was up all night crying. Any idea what I should do? And am I expecting too much or worrying too much about this?
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (23 November 2015):
 Glad he wrote to you :) See there was nothing to worry about :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 November 2015): Hi Honeypie, I am the OP.
Thought I would provide the latest update. My boyfriend emailed me back tonight! Said Hi back and told me about his trip and that he misses me.
I am so grateful for your good advice.
Thank you. And thank you to everyone. :)
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (22 November 2015):
Good for you OP!
Keep your chin up - and keep busy - time will fly. Like Ciar said, THIS is the perfect time for you to met up with friends you may have "neglected" a little because of your relationship. Or catch up on stuff you have procrastinated about doing.
While my husband was deployed the second time I got the whole house painted - EVERY wall and did new tiles in the kitchen. Not that we "needed" to do it (I did hate the original color) but it keep me busy. And the kids "helped" with making care-packages to cheer him up.
Take the time apart as a little ME-TIME period. Spoil yourself. Read a good book with a glass of wine or something you rarely do when he is around.
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reader, Ivyblue  +, writes (21 November 2015):
 People I sent txt messages to while I was on board a cruise received them 4 days later. Sending an email cost a small fortune and as for cell reception he'd probably have more luck contacting you sending a message in a bottle. No need to panic.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 November 2015): Thank you for your advice.
Honeypie, I sent him an email telling him I just wanted to say Hi and hope all is well. :)
I do feel better now.
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reader, Ciar +, writes (21 November 2015):
 I agree. It's only been two days and he's with his family. Spending the night crying is a bit over the top.
If you have nothing going on in your own life then you'll all the time in the world to worry and imagine terrible scenarios. Like Honeypie suggests, keep busy and perhaps get together with friends, but use some self discipline and don't spoil your time with them by brooding about your boyfriend.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (21 November 2015):
I have to say, you NEED to chill. I think you are WAY overreacting.
He is on vacation, but that doesn't mean he has forgotten you. He is there to relax, spend time with family, and not worrying about you. He (hopefully) knows you are a grown up and capable woman who CAN handle a few days without contact.
Relax and keep yourself busy and he will be home in no time. Don't start imagining all kind of horrible things, maybe instead write HIM a short happy daily e-mail so he knows you are doing fine.
I don't know how the cellphone connection is from where-ever he is, but I can imagine there can be some delays.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 November 2015): Last time I was on a cruise I don't remember having much cell phone reception. Also, you have to pay for the WiFi. Maybe he didn't? Just something to think about. It could be technical difficulties.
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