My boyfriend is away for a couple of months, and I found some suspicious emails from a woman. I don't want to accuse him unnecessarily, what do you think?

A female age 41-50, anonymous writes:

Help! My partner of 4 years has taken a couple of months to do a round-the-world trip, following a life dream... he asked me to come, but I knew he needed to do this by himself, and he thanked me for giving him his freedom, and said that he wouldnt abuse it - he knew it was a real gift, and he loved me more for not questioning him. I trust him implicitly. However, I woke up last week with this horrible pang of intuition - I can't explain it - but I just felt really suspicious. I couldn't shake the feeling all day - I thought I was going mad. I know his e-mail password because I have seen him putting it so many times (he even knows I know it) - so I did something awful and checked his messages. This is the first time I have ever done something like that. Now I wish I hadn't. There were two messages from the same girl. They were quite ambiguous, so I don't want to accuse him unnecessarily, and expose the fact that I have gone through his messages, which is a huge invasion of his privacy. The first message said, "I don't know whether I was clear, but I really do want to see you again." Short and sweet, no deatils. The next day, another message from her saying: "I don't know if you got my message. Perhaps I'll see you in [the next town], to do what I really want to do again." He replied, saying, "cool, maybe I'll see you there". Thats it. He phoned that night to tell me I was the love of his life, he wants to be with me forever. I didn't know what to do - I didn't bring up the messages, because they were so ambiguous. But as much as I loved hearing his sudden commitment, I can't stop obsessing. I don't know what they mean! I am freaking out!! I really don't know what to do... any advice? (by the way: to be honest, as long as he didn't have sex with her, I am ok... this is where I draw the "line" is - because I haven't seen him in 2 months, this is the only "suspicious" message in his entire inbox - I don't know if that changes anything - or am I just making excuses for him?)

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