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writes:I met my boyfriend at mathmatics lecture. I doing it to get some extra credit in class, but he was going for fun! That's how nerdy my boyfriend is! But he's not one of those dorky nerds you see in cartoons, he's one of those sexy geeks if you know what I mean.Anyway I really like him but whenever we hang out I can never talk about the things he's interested in cause it's all way over my head. I'm not dumb but I'm by no means a genius :(. So we usually just talk about the things that I'm interested in cause I can understand them.But it really hurts when we go out especially when he brings his friends along cause they're smart to. One time they were talking about epistomology (I can't even spell that) and one of them asked what I thought and I said I have no idea what you're talking about. I know this seems something really silly to cry about but I fill like some kind of bimbo when I'm with him. And there are lot of girls who are prettier than me and smarter than me who like him (cause like I said, he is sexy.) and I'm just worried that he'll meet a hot girl who talks dirty epistomology with him and he'll say "Goodbye bimbo, I've found someone smart enough for me."Omigod this is really sounding ridiculous isn't it. How am I supposed to keep him interested? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 November 2008): We geeks are a weird lot.I am sexy no doubts about it.But guys are attracted to me mostly because they want to know what makes me tick.We rationalize each and every thing a thousand times over.Most of the time I repeat most of the time(laughing) we are calm,dignified in a social setting.This is what the other girls see in him.They want to know how he would be,with his guard down.We don't realize that we are behaving differently.Most probably he doesn't even notice how many people are attracted to him.you don't have anything to worry about in that score.
I can understand why you are feeling intimidated by him.I am currently reading up on Artificial Intelligence for my next project.After a day of reading do you really think I would want to talk about it to anyone,even the best of experts?I would want someone who would act silly,make me laugh,pull my legs,make me blush and wouldn't utter a single word about Artificial Intelligence.If he wants to talk with me about potty training his dog I would gladly listen.So you don't have to worry that you are not able to talk about what he likes.
Regarding the friends part its really tricky.But geeks love explaining things.The golden rule of the unwritten geek book is that we don't look down on anyone who don't know things.Next time anyone asks you something that you don't understand,tell them "I have never heard of it.Maybe you can explain." Once he starts explaining ,watch the drama unfold as all the geeks try to argue their point.Sit back and have fun!!.
It seems like you love him.you are scared that you are going to lose him to someone else.At the end of the day he chooses to be with you.Doesn't that say something?.The girl who believes in herself is the prettiest of the lot.Please don't be insecure.Insecurity is the first thing that starts driving a wedge between two people.
Here's a joke that was very famous during our campus days.
Geek 1:Hey that's a great bike.Where did you get it?
Geek 2:This Stunning lady drove up in it,tore off all her clothes and said take whatever you want.
Geek 1:Good that you took the bike,the clothes probably wouldn't have fit anyway.
Hope that made you smile.Young Lady go on and love your guy.All the best.God Bless.
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