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*elvetluv21
writes:I have 2 major problems with my boyfriend of 7 years and need to vent. he is a LIAR. He lies about everything from stupid to serious. He'll tell me that a friend's video game system broke and i'll find out a few weeks later that it didn't and by then it seems worthless to make a big deal about it. Or he'll tell me someone died but they are perfectly fine and when I find out they are fine, he just tells me someone else told him. On time he told me his father died and I knew certain family members would have called me if it were true so I called him out on it right then and there. He got so defensive that he started to blame everyone else and make a huge deal about it just to save face. I'm fearful to call him out. 1, because i don't always have the proof he is lying and 2, some of the shit is so stupid it isn't worth fighting about. I work full time and have a 6 month old, I don't have time to play :lets find the holes in this story: I know he does it for attention, to get him out of trouble (it usually gets him into more), to get people to like him, or he's just bored but it is starting to seep into my friends and family. I can handle me but my family and friends aren't like that so I am confronted often and I hate it. How can I stop him from doing it if I have no amo when it is happening?My second problem is his teeth. I didn't know the extent of his dental disease for quite a few years but since moving in together, it is HORRIBLE. I have offered to pay for all of them to be removed but he said it was too much money. He's always sick and feels crappy but doesn't think his mouth has anything to do with it. I don't know what his parents taught him but it is sooooooo embarassing. He wants to get married but I am too embarassed to show everyone I know. He smiles like there is nothing wrong but all you see are jagged teeth and black. I am also concerned about his health because of it but again, he was never informed all the dangers dental disease can cause. It is bad enough my friends, family, and coworkers know but it stops me from being fully in this relationship. I hate to bring him to meet anyone and that is why. He knows I am aware of the problem because i've offered to fix it but only did so after he brought up the subject and that was after 7 years together. I've never brought it up because I was embarassed to talk about it but it is a major road block in the relationship..... he just doesn't know it. How do I get him to endure the pain of severe dental work and not hate me? Or even if he hates me, I still need him to do it. My only other option is to wait until all of them rot away and pray he isn't dead by then. THANK YOU!
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reader, xstar777x  +, writes (1 January 2011):
if you read this please write to me [email address blocked]
I am living your life, but your a few years a head of me and I need to know what u did to get through
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 August 2008): I don't understand what issues you must have to stay with a "compulsive" liar for 7 years. Not only that but he is stupid. Who in their right mind would neglect their teeth when someone else is willing to foot the bill? Ignorance is an excuse. If he cared about his health at all, he would take the time to find out for himself what the consequences of bad infected teeth can cause him. He has deeper issues....he has no common sense. Why on earth would you be in a 7 year relationship with someone you are ashamed of? What kind of guilt did your parents/church or some other personal demon, put on you as a child that you believe it is your responsibility to change someone?
Save yourself.
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